There is a dramatic difference between learning tricks to increase confidence/social success and then not sleeping with anyone under false pretense (via honesty or just ending the game three-quarters of the way through), and learning tricks to increase confidence/social success and then proceeding to use them to get poorly-informed women to have sex. I assume it’s possible to do the first thing.
Yep. Actually, from one trainer’s blog, I get the impression there’s a paradox, though.
The trainer tells a student: go over there and get blown out (rejected). Say whatever you have to say to get those women to reject you. Paradox: the set opens, the student gets attraction, because he’s absolutely at ease, not caring about the outcome. The more outrageously he speaks and acts, the more the women perceive him as a confident guy who’s just being playful with them.
Now, the trainer says, “okay, you see how well it works when you’re confident? Now go over there and talk to those other women and do the same thing...” Student gets blown out, because now he cares.
So, it’s not quite that simple. When the entire point of the exercise is to be confident taking things all the way to the end of the process, bailing out becomes an excuse not to face the fear of the next step. And if somebody bails at LMR—the last possible moment before sex occurs—then the woman is going to be just as disappointed, if not more, than if the guy went all the way.
i.e., if you get to LMR, you already got somebody to go home with you or vice versa, and it’s very likely the case that she did so, already wanting to have sex with you!
I guess what I’m getting at, is that a premature ending can be more deceitful/hurtful than going all the way, if the entire subtext was that the woman wanted to get laid and the guy was providing her with excuses.
I’m really not that familiar with that kind of game, and find it a turnoff, as I prefer women who can be direct about their desires. Doesn’t mean I want to deprive those women of having any outlet at all, just because society’s taught them they’re not supposed to want it or be direct… even less if it’s because of their genes!
Only if your goal really is sex by hook or by crook. Clearly, not having sex will not increase your capacity to just plainly and simply get sex. But if someone finds seduction appealing because they want confidence and social skills, there is no obvious reason they have to take the suggested tricks to the point of actual sex under false pretenses in order to develop them into skills.
Kicking the air in front of someone would be more analogous to practicing your confidence tricks talking to a dressmaker’s dummy, then never actually going out and talking to women.
There is a dramatic difference between learning tricks to increase confidence/social success and then not sleeping with anyone under false pretense (via honesty or just ending the game three-quarters of the way through), and learning tricks to increase confidence/social success and then proceeding to use them to get poorly-informed women to have sex. I assume it’s possible to do the first thing.
Yep. Actually, from one trainer’s blog, I get the impression there’s a paradox, though.
The trainer tells a student: go over there and get blown out (rejected). Say whatever you have to say to get those women to reject you. Paradox: the set opens, the student gets attraction, because he’s absolutely at ease, not caring about the outcome. The more outrageously he speaks and acts, the more the women perceive him as a confident guy who’s just being playful with them.
Now, the trainer says, “okay, you see how well it works when you’re confident? Now go over there and talk to those other women and do the same thing...” Student gets blown out, because now he cares.
So, it’s not quite that simple. When the entire point of the exercise is to be confident taking things all the way to the end of the process, bailing out becomes an excuse not to face the fear of the next step. And if somebody bails at LMR—the last possible moment before sex occurs—then the woman is going to be just as disappointed, if not more, than if the guy went all the way.
i.e., if you get to LMR, you already got somebody to go home with you or vice versa, and it’s very likely the case that she did so, already wanting to have sex with you!
I guess what I’m getting at, is that a premature ending can be more deceitful/hurtful than going all the way, if the entire subtext was that the woman wanted to get laid and the guy was providing her with excuses.
I’m really not that familiar with that kind of game, and find it a turnoff, as I prefer women who can be direct about their desires. Doesn’t mean I want to deprive those women of having any outlet at all, just because society’s taught them they’re not supposed to want it or be direct… even less if it’s because of their genes!
That sounds like you are trying to say you can learn karate by kicking the air in front of someone.
Only if your goal really is sex by hook or by crook. Clearly, not having sex will not increase your capacity to just plainly and simply get sex. But if someone finds seduction appealing because they want confidence and social skills, there is no obvious reason they have to take the suggested tricks to the point of actual sex under false pretenses in order to develop them into skills.
Kicking the air in front of someone would be more analogous to practicing your confidence tricks talking to a dressmaker’s dummy, then never actually going out and talking to women.