I’m sure you have simply loads of data points on this, of women who you chased who really liked it and weren’t trying to remember if their favorite law firm does restraining orders, but since I’m an actual woman and do not have an interest in being “chased”, it would have displayed some politeness to add a qualifier like “some” or “in my experience”.
What about if you just want sex quickly with an attractive woman irrespective of what kind of person she is? Is there something wrong with this?
Yes. This displays a revolting attitude towards women. Unless (as pjeby suggested) you pay for it, or (as I mentioned in another comment) you find a woman who just wants sex with an attractive man (I’ll charitably assume you are one at least to some people) regardless of your personality. The latter sort of woman exists. She can be found on Craigslist. She is, however, immensely picky because she gets several hundred e-mails every time she posts an ad, because your desires are not remotely uncommon and you have a lot of competition. If you aren’t good-looking enough to stand out from the crowd of honest seekers of NSA sex, of course investigating other categories of women who might let you sleep with them and using every trick in the book to get them to do so would seem like the next logical choice. That doesn’t make it right.
But where do you draw the line between tact and lying?
Broadly, tact is about what topics you bring up. Lying is about what you say about the topic at hand, whatever it may be. Attempting to actually have sex implicitly brings up the topic of your motives, because if it’s had under false pretenses, consent is flimsier and the entire thing is thrown into moral confusion.
I’m sure you have simply loads of data points on this, of women who you chased who really liked it and weren’t trying to remember if their favorite law firm does restraining orders, but since I’m an actual woman and do not have an interest in being “chased”, it would have displayed some politeness to add a qualifier like “some” or “in my experience”.
Yes. This displays a revolting attitude towards women. Unless (as pjeby suggested) you pay for it, or (as I mentioned in another comment) you find a woman who just wants sex with an attractive man (I’ll charitably assume you are one at least to some people) regardless of your personality. The latter sort of woman exists. She can be found on Craigslist. She is, however, immensely picky because she gets several hundred e-mails every time she posts an ad, because your desires are not remotely uncommon and you have a lot of competition. If you aren’t good-looking enough to stand out from the crowd of honest seekers of NSA sex, of course investigating other categories of women who might let you sleep with them and using every trick in the book to get them to do so would seem like the next logical choice. That doesn’t make it right.
Broadly, tact is about what topics you bring up. Lying is about what you say about the topic at hand, whatever it may be. Attempting to actually have sex implicitly brings up the topic of your motives, because if it’s had under false pretenses, consent is flimsier and the entire thing is thrown into moral confusion.