I’m using The Charisma Myth, Neil Strauss’ Rules of the Game, Nonviolent Communication, some other books and quite some LW posts to improve my social skills with good results. Apparently I made quite a good impression on my last job. I’m careful to clearly use only non-dark techniques (I avoid any that involve lies; The Game actually involves lots) and to stay authentic.
Nice, do you have any specific tips? If I wanted to add say the five most useful tips you’ve got, which would they be? Or the five most useful concepts?
Take a stance. Take space. Take a breath. Take your time. Keep still. - This projecting self-confidence via posture was the first thing that I can clearly say worked. I use my fencing stance as a base.
Don’t nod often or vigorously.
Consider your clothing. The color of clothing apparently signals something:
Red: ambition or passion. Useful to wake up an audience.
Black means you’re serious, and won’t take no for an answer.
Blue: trust. The darker the shade, the deeper the trust it elicits. <-- I prefer this.
Gray: quintessential color of neutrality in business and politics.
Practical Charisma: Before important events warm-up. Free time. Spend time with people supporting your. Positive athmosphere (music).
Recently I tried to apply an exercise from The Charisma Myth to project more benevolence: Imagine the people around you with angel wings and striving to achieve good. It almost always makes me smile so I will definitely continue it as it also improves my spirits. It actually brought back some positive stance which I think declined a bit in the last year(s). Whether I actually do project more benevolence I can’t say (yet).
Back: a breath, a stance, take up space, take your time and keep stil
But for me the remembering of the text is less important than to be reminded of the habit at all. There wouldn’t have to be page B. I’d just rate how well I did the habit. The cloze is just a quick check of how well I remember the key instructions.
I’m using The Charisma Myth, Neil Strauss’ Rules of the Game, Nonviolent Communication, some other books and quite some LW posts to improve my social skills with good results. Apparently I made quite a good impression on my last job. I’m careful to clearly use only non-dark techniques (I avoid any that involve lies; The Game actually involves lots) and to stay authentic.
Nice, do you have any specific tips? If I wanted to add say the five most useful tips you’ve got, which would they be? Or the five most useful concepts?
My Anki decks spits out:
Take a stance. Take space. Take a breath. Take your time. Keep still. - This projecting self-confidence via posture was the first thing that I can clearly say worked. I use my fencing stance as a base.
Don’t nod often or vigorously.
Consider your clothing. The color of clothing apparently signals something:
Red: ambition or passion. Useful to wake up an audience.
Black means you’re serious, and won’t take no for an answer.
Blue: trust. The darker the shade, the deeper the trust it elicits. <-- I prefer this.
Gray: quintessential color of neutrality in business and politics.
Practical Charisma: Before important events warm-up. Free time. Spend time with people supporting your. Positive athmosphere (music).
Recently I tried to apply an exercise from The Charisma Myth to project more benevolence: Imagine the people around you with angel wings and striving to achieve good. It almost always makes me smile so I will definitely continue it as it also improves my spirits. It actually brought back some positive stance which I think declined a bit in the last year(s). Whether I actually do project more benevolence I can’t say (yet).
How do you Ankify knowledge like that? Or, to be specific, what’s on the other side of those cards in Anki?
I make cloze texts involving the habit.
Example:
Front: You should take...
Back: a breath, a stance, take up space, take your time and keep stil
But for me the remembering of the text is less important than to be reminded of the habit at all. There wouldn’t have to be page B. I’d just rate how well I did the habit. The cloze is just a quick check of how well I remember the key instructions.