This question points at the mystery of this phenomenon! That’s part of my investigation. I’m not totally sure what exactly would be lost, but it sure seems like there is something.
Hard to go into it further without a live, real-time example. But maybe you’ll run into some examples in your own life.
Try observing when two people seem to be in an intractable communication. Or in a long-term estrangement. Why are they unwilling to take the perspective of the other person? Unwilling to even try to model them?
In some cases, it’s just that they’re holding too tightly onto their own frame (e.g. taking something as personal that wasn’t personal), in a way that is obviously unhelpful and counterproductive. And you may see how their frame is wrong or misguided.
But in the more interesting cases, it’s like a deeper philosophical or existential clash? Again they might be holding their frame more tightly than they strictly need to, but it seems like something critical would be lost if they let go and tried on the other person, even for a second. What is this? This is my inquiry.
Hmm, what would be lost by modeling the other person?
This question points at the mystery of this phenomenon! That’s part of my investigation. I’m not totally sure what exactly would be lost, but it sure seems like there is something.
Hard to go into it further without a live, real-time example. But maybe you’ll run into some examples in your own life.
Try observing when two people seem to be in an intractable communication. Or in a long-term estrangement. Why are they unwilling to take the perspective of the other person? Unwilling to even try to model them?
In some cases, it’s just that they’re holding too tightly onto their own frame (e.g. taking something as personal that wasn’t personal), in a way that is obviously unhelpful and counterproductive. And you may see how their frame is wrong or misguided.
But in the more interesting cases, it’s like a deeper philosophical or existential clash? Again they might be holding their frame more tightly than they strictly need to, but it seems like something critical would be lost if they let go and tried on the other person, even for a second. What is this? This is my inquiry.