I am a bit stressed right now, and so maybe am reading your comment too much as a “gotcha”, but on the margin I would like to avoid psychologizing of me here (I think it’s sometimes fine, but the above already felt a bit vulnerable and this direction feels like it disincentivizes that). I generally like sharing the intricacies and details of my motivations and cognition, but this is much harder if this immediately causes people to show up to dissect my motivations to prove their point.
More on the object-level, I don’t think this is the result of motivated cognition, though it’s of course hard to rule out. I would prefer if this kind of thing doesn’t become a liability to say out loud in contexts like this. I expect it will make conversations where people try to understand where other people are coming from go better.
Sorry if I overreacted in this comment. I do think in a different context, on maybe a different day I would be up for poking at my motivations and cognition and see whether indeed they are flawed in this way (which they very well might be), but I don’t currently feel like it’s the right move in this context.
I think it’s sometimes fine, but the above already felt a bit vulnerable and this direction feels like it disincentivizes that
FWIW, I think your original comment was good and I’m glad you made it, and want to give you some points for it. (I guess that’s what the upvote buttons are for!)
I am a bit stressed right now, and so maybe am reading your comment too much as a “gotcha”, but on the margin I would like to avoid psychologizing of me here (I think it’s sometimes fine, but the above already felt a bit vulnerable and this direction feels like it disincentivizes that). I generally like sharing the intricacies and details of my motivations and cognition, but this is much harder if this immediately causes people to show up to dissect my motivations to prove their point.
More on the object-level, I don’t think this is the result of motivated cognition, though it’s of course hard to rule out. I would prefer if this kind of thing doesn’t become a liability to say out loud in contexts like this. I expect it will make conversations where people try to understand where other people are coming from go better.
Sorry if I overreacted in this comment. I do think in a different context, on maybe a different day I would be up for poking at my motivations and cognition and see whether indeed they are flawed in this way (which they very well might be), but I don’t currently feel like it’s the right move in this context.
FWIW, I think your original comment was good and I’m glad you made it, and want to give you some points for it. (I guess that’s what the upvote buttons are for!)