Scenario 2 sound like it would be bad for me as well as scenario 1. I’m fairly uncomfortable talking about weight goals with most people—it feels like it would be saying I’m too fat or something negative like that, so unless they’ve revealed a similar problem to me I don’t go there. So in that situation I’d expect to feel insulted. It’s not a failure mode that I fall into any more, but where I was expecting that scenario to go is “When you read all the posts your brain goes; yeah this is too hard, I feel bad, I want chocolate. And at the end of the month you’ve gained a kilo.”
Might be gender-related. Women experiencing that sort of discussion to go in the direction of judging appearance along with a greater negative affect from being judged unattractive. Men experiencing it being treated as just another health-related goal and being less concerned with judgment if they admit failure.
It’s possible that if I did made such a post and read those responses it would go better than that, but it would be anxiety-inducing for me to go about testing that. Tentative suggestion: sharing goals I feel like I “should” be achieving is bad, sharing goals I just want to achieve is variable but expected positive.
there is probably a gender variability on this issue.
The paper seems to suggest a specific hypothesis as to why:
your brain does the “I got all the congratulations, I must be done” process and this causes you to not try as hard on your goal. I don’t know how true that theory is, but it seems reasonable.
Scenario 2 sound like it would be bad for me as well as scenario 1. I’m fairly uncomfortable talking about weight goals with most people—it feels like it would be saying I’m too fat or something negative like that, so unless they’ve revealed a similar problem to me I don’t go there. So in that situation I’d expect to feel insulted. It’s not a failure mode that I fall into any more, but where I was expecting that scenario to go is “When you read all the posts your brain goes; yeah this is too hard, I feel bad, I want chocolate. And at the end of the month you’ve gained a kilo.”
Might be gender-related. Women experiencing that sort of discussion to go in the direction of judging appearance along with a greater negative affect from being judged unattractive. Men experiencing it being treated as just another health-related goal and being less concerned with judgment if they admit failure.
It’s possible that if I did made such a post and read those responses it would go better than that, but it would be anxiety-inducing for me to go about testing that. Tentative suggestion: sharing goals I feel like I “should” be achieving is bad, sharing goals I just want to achieve is variable but expected positive.
there is probably a gender variability on this issue.
The paper seems to suggest a specific hypothesis as to why: your brain does the “I got all the congratulations, I must be done” process and this causes you to not try as hard on your goal. I don’t know how true that theory is, but it seems reasonable.
I am keen for future research in the area.