Maybe by moderates coming out of the closet, so to speak?
Hi, my name is Daenerys, and I have ambiguous views about PUA. My initial reaction was “Ew! Bad!” but after reading the debates here, talking with a friend, and learning more elsewhere, my views towards it have softened. I still do not think that all of it is 100% ok though. It is a complicated issue with many facets.
Mainly I wish it wouldn’t hijack non-PUA discussions. I am seriously close to just starting a PUA discussion to keep all this stuff in one place, but I guess I feel if anyone should do it, it should be the mods.
Speaking as an indifferent moderate, I suspect that well over 90% of the value extractable from discussions of applications of evidence-based reasoning to dating is extractable with significantly less effort from discussions of applications of evidence-based reasoning to job interviews, used car purchases, getting along with parents and children and neighbors and classmates and coworkers, and other social negotiations.
That said, I also suspect that the far greater fascination the dating-related threads have for this site than the other stuff has more to do with various people’s interests in dating than with their interest in evidence-based reasoning, so I expect we will continue to have the dating-related threads.
but I guess I feel if anyone should do it, it should be the mods.
Moderators moving into a role of actively constructing official topics like that would be somewhat awkward. Moderation being damn near invisible for the most part is a feature.
Maybe by moderates coming out of the closet, so to speak?
Hi, my name is Daenerys, and I have ambiguous views about PUA. My initial reaction was “Ew! Bad!” but after reading the debates here, talking with a friend, and learning more elsewhere, my views towards it have softened. I still do not think that all of it is 100% ok though. It is a complicated issue with many facets.
Mainly I wish it wouldn’t hijack non-PUA discussions. I am seriously close to just starting a PUA discussion to keep all this stuff in one place, but I guess I feel if anyone should do it, it should be the mods.
PUA Moderates of the World, Unite!
Speaking as an indifferent moderate, I suspect that well over 90% of the value extractable from discussions of applications of evidence-based reasoning to dating is extractable with significantly less effort from discussions of applications of evidence-based reasoning to job interviews, used car purchases, getting along with parents and children and neighbors and classmates and coworkers, and other social negotiations.
That said, I also suspect that the far greater fascination the dating-related threads have for this site than the other stuff has more to do with various people’s interests in dating than with their interest in evidence-based reasoning, so I expect we will continue to have the dating-related threads.
Moderators moving into a role of actively constructing official topics like that would be somewhat awkward. Moderation being damn near invisible for the most part is a feature.
Hi daenerys! Welcome to the PUA Moderates club.