I do wonder sometimes about types of motivation to have kids. I’ve never thought about if I would like parenting, and in practice I find it quite challenging. My parents have four children and were always clear that it is a lot of work and can be quite hard. If anything, they discouraged me from having kids cause of how much work it is and how challenging etc.
However, my desire to have kids is unrelated to how much direct joy I get from parenting. It’s like an end in itself, regardless of how fun or not-fun it is.
Maybe that type of motivation is not interesting to reflect on cause you either have it or you don’t? Which is fair. It’s just a different experience from weighing pros and cons etc.
I do wonder sometimes about types of motivation to have kids. I’ve never thought about if I would like parenting, and in practice I find it quite challenging. My parents have four children and were always clear that it is a lot of work and can be quite hard. If anything, they discouraged me from having kids cause of how much work it is and how challenging etc.
However, my desire to have kids is unrelated to how much direct joy I get from parenting. It’s like an end in itself, regardless of how fun or not-fun it is.
Maybe that type of motivation is not interesting to reflect on cause you either have it or you don’t? Which is fair. It’s just a different experience from weighing pros and cons etc.