Thanks, this is an excellent reply. Sometimes you will find that someone’s goals truly are something different from what you might expect. But more often, I suspect that people aren’t fully aware of the trade-off or haven’t fully embraced it. I mean, so much of what we do is just because it feels right and not because we’ve consciously considered it and come to a decision. And, maybe I should have spent some time acknowledging this possibility in my post, because I definitely simplify the situation somewhat. I guess the point of this post is to be somewhat provocative, to point out ways someone might be acting that might not match their true values (here I mean values that hold up under reflection).
Thanks, this is an excellent reply. Sometimes you will find that someone’s goals truly are something different from what you might expect. But more often, I suspect that people aren’t fully aware of the trade-off or haven’t fully embraced it. I mean, so much of what we do is just because it feels right and not because we’ve consciously considered it and come to a decision. And, maybe I should have spent some time acknowledging this possibility in my post, because I definitely simplify the situation somewhat. I guess the point of this post is to be somewhat provocative, to point out ways someone might be acting that might not match their true values (here I mean values that hold up under reflection).