I note that in none of them did you take any part of the responsibility for escalating the disagreement to its current level of toxicity.
You have instead pointed out Said’s actions, and Said’s behavior, and the moderators lack of action, and how people “skim social points off the top”, etc.
Anonymousaisafety, with respect, and acknowledging there’s a bit of the pot calling the kettle black intrinsic in my comment here, I think your comments in this thread are also functioning to escalate the conflict, as was clone of saturn’s top-level comment.
The things your comments are doing that seem to me escalatory include making an initially inaccurate criticism of Duncan (“your continued statements on this thread that you’ve done nothing wrong”), followed by a renewed criticism of Duncan that doesn’t contain even a brief acknowledgement or apology for the original inaccuracy. Those are small relational skills that can be immensely helpful in dealing with a conflict smoothly.
None of that has any bearing on the truth-value of your critical claims—it just bears on the manner and context in which you’re expressing them.
I think it is possible and desirable to address this conflict in a net-de-escalatory manner. The people best positioned to do so are the people who don’t feel themselves to be embroiled in a conflict with Duncan or Said, or who can take genuine emotional distance from any such conflict.
You’re an anonymous commenter who’s been here for a year sniping from the sidelines who has shown that they’re willing to misrepresent comments that are literally visible on this same page, and then, when I point that out, ignore it completely and reiterate your beef. I think Ray wants me to say “strong downvote and I won’t engage any further.”
Yes, I have read your posts.
I note that in none of them did you take any part of the responsibility for escalating the disagreement to its current level of toxicity.
You have instead pointed out Said’s actions, and Said’s behavior, and the moderators lack of action, and how people “skim social points off the top”, etc.
Anonymousaisafety, with respect, and acknowledging there’s a bit of the pot calling the kettle black intrinsic in my comment here, I think your comments in this thread are also functioning to escalate the conflict, as was clone of saturn’s top-level comment.
The things your comments are doing that seem to me escalatory include making an initially inaccurate criticism of Duncan (“your continued statements on this thread that you’ve done nothing wrong”), followed by a renewed criticism of Duncan that doesn’t contain even a brief acknowledgement or apology for the original inaccuracy. Those are small relational skills that can be immensely helpful in dealing with a conflict smoothly.
None of that has any bearing on the truth-value of your critical claims—it just bears on the manner and context in which you’re expressing them.
I think it is possible and desirable to address this conflict in a net-de-escalatory manner. The people best positioned to do so are the people who don’t feel themselves to be embroiled in a conflict with Duncan or Said, or who can take genuine emotional distance from any such conflict.
*shrug
You’re an anonymous commenter who’s been here for a year sniping from the sidelines who has shown that they’re willing to misrepresent comments that are literally visible on this same page, and then, when I point that out, ignore it completely and reiterate your beef. I think Ray wants me to say “strong downvote and I won’t engage any further.”