I am also unskilled at deceiving or distracting people. But I don’t think that’s an inherent personality trait. I believe that most interpersonal interaction consists of subconscious skills and scripts that can be executed subconsciously once we decide to execute them. The following skills are things I had to learn:
Start a conversation with a stranger
Arrange to meet someone at a later date
Ask a stranger for directions
Ask someone a personal question
Be interviewed by police
Buy things from a store
Order food at a sit-down restaurant
Ask a store clerk for a discount (I’m still working on this one)
I had to practice all of these several times before I could execute them without feeling flustered, and I had to practice some more before I could execute them while my mind was elsewhere. Deceiving or distracting someone seems like just another skill, except you’ll fail the first few times you do it because your flustered state will give you away. No big deal.
I am also unskilled at deceiving or distracting people. But I don’t think that’s an inherent personality trait. I believe that most interpersonal interaction consists of subconscious skills and scripts that can be executed subconsciously once we decide to execute them. The following skills are things I had to learn:
Start a conversation with a stranger
Arrange to meet someone at a later date
Ask a stranger for directions
Ask someone a personal question
Be interviewed by police
Buy things from a store
Order food at a sit-down restaurant
Ask a store clerk for a discount (I’m still working on this one)
I had to practice all of these several times before I could execute them without feeling flustered, and I had to practice some more before I could execute them while my mind was elsewhere. Deceiving or distracting someone seems like just another skill, except you’ll fail the first few times you do it because your flustered state will give you away. No big deal.