My apologies, I wasn’t clear. I meant, pick two of your high-school friends when they were in high school. Or if you prefer, pick any two of “your kids”, whatever that means to you, at an age when they’d been friends for at least five years. Not two kids who “aren’t inclined” to get along, two kids who are.
What, concretely, do you write to start them fighting? I see several straightforward ways to worsen an existing argument, but creating a new one, without either participant noticing the asymmetry, is much harder.
I guess what I’m saying is that you are either limited in information on teenagers or in imagination.
No need to apologise; you don’t know me. Without wanting to get too distracted by an argument over credentials: my involvement with teenagers in unending, God help me, but perhaps I do lack imagination. I’d observe in turn that you seem to have identified very closely with Snape’s suffering, and have paid relatively little attention to Lilly’s thoughts and feelings in this affair. That’s when I noticed my confusion: I tried to model Lilly’s half of this, and failed.
I’d observe in turn that you seem to have identified very closely with Snape’s suffering,
It happens I don’t. I’ve never been ‘friendzoned,’ never hidden my courtship attempts behind friendship, and never lost a friend due to what seemed to me to be a single event. I have little sympathy for young Snape.
Teenagers aren’t well-equipped to build lasting bonds and relationships. Their poorly-controlled emotional outbursts and social anxieties are more likely to lead to defensively cutting contact than building bridges. They break apart easily enough on their own, even if they are, for a time, inclined to each other’s company.
Without regard to the degree of the hurt—and teenagers do react in an exaggerated fashion to minor injuries of ego, don’t they? -- people do get in arguments where they never mention the thing that upset them enough to get in an argument. I think that is what the author means us to understand took place between Snape and Lily.
My apologies, I wasn’t clear. I meant, pick two of your high-school friends when they were in high school. Or if you prefer, pick any two of “your kids”, whatever that means to you, at an age when they’d been friends for at least five years. Not two kids who “aren’t inclined” to get along, two kids who are.
What, concretely, do you write to start them fighting? I see several straightforward ways to worsen an existing argument, but creating a new one, without either participant noticing the asymmetry, is much harder.
No need to apologise; you don’t know me. Without wanting to get too distracted by an argument over credentials: my involvement with teenagers in unending, God help me, but perhaps I do lack imagination. I’d observe in turn that you seem to have identified very closely with Snape’s suffering, and have paid relatively little attention to Lilly’s thoughts and feelings in this affair. That’s when I noticed my confusion: I tried to model Lilly’s half of this, and failed.
It happens I don’t. I’ve never been ‘friendzoned,’ never hidden my courtship attempts behind friendship, and never lost a friend due to what seemed to me to be a single event. I have little sympathy for young Snape.
Teenagers aren’t well-equipped to build lasting bonds and relationships. Their poorly-controlled emotional outbursts and social anxieties are more likely to lead to defensively cutting contact than building bridges. They break apart easily enough on their own, even if they are, for a time, inclined to each other’s company.
Without regard to the degree of the hurt—and teenagers do react in an exaggerated fashion to minor injuries of ego, don’t they? -- people do get in arguments where they never mention the thing that upset them enough to get in an argument. I think that is what the author means us to understand took place between Snape and Lily.