The main point is about sources of advice and not about advising the reader to adopt a specific behavior.
Tucker Max does go into more detail on his podcast.
Even if we go on advice level, the advice is to signal conscientiousness. Not cleaning your dishes for three days and having them pile up in the kitchen signals low conscientiousness.
The difference between clean and “extra squeaky clean” doesn’t signal additional conscientiousness but being neurotic.
The great thing about seeing that you signal conscientiousness towards woman is that developing conscientiousness is useful in general in life. Impressing woman happens a quite good motivator.
Following advice without understanding the reasons behind the advice is seldom optimal. It leads to cargo-culting. Especially for online advice it’s foolish.
In person I can ask a lot of question to understand what someone’s issue happens to be and then give targeted advice. Giving advice is usually not the main goal when I write something on LW. It’s intellectual exchange.
The great thing about seeing that you signal conscientiousness towards woman is that developing conscientiousness is useful in general in life. Impressing woman happens a quite good motivator.
The kind of folks who are going to follow through with this sort of advice in the first place are likely to be more conscientious than average, not less. Given that, signaling conscientiousness is not necessarily good advice—such folks may be better off developing other skills, which are also valuable in other contexts. Saying that you should “impress women” strikes me as the kind of truism that’s common in bad dating advice. There are many ways of being impressive, and knowing which are best for you in any given context is a useful skill to have.
The kind of folks who are going to follow through with this sort of advice in the first place are likely to be more conscientious than average, not less.
Being better than average doesn’t mean that it’s useless to improve on it.
such folks may be better off developing other skills, which are also valuable in other contexts
Developing conscientiousness usually doesn’t stand in the way of developing other skills.
Saying that you should “impress women” strikes me as the kind of truism that’s common in bad dating advice.
I didn’t. Most heterosexual guys already spent energy on “impressing women”, my recommendation is about challenging that energy productively.
Adding two woman to a group of ten males, the behavior of that group changes. They suddenly optimize more for the image they are projecting.
The main point is about sources of advice and not about advising the reader to adopt a specific behavior. Tucker Max does go into more detail on his podcast.
Even if we go on advice level, the advice is to signal conscientiousness. Not cleaning your dishes for three days and having them pile up in the kitchen signals low conscientiousness.
The difference between clean and “extra squeaky clean” doesn’t signal additional conscientiousness but being neurotic.
The great thing about seeing that you signal conscientiousness towards woman is that developing conscientiousness is useful in general in life. Impressing woman happens a quite good motivator.
Following advice without understanding the reasons behind the advice is seldom optimal. It leads to cargo-culting. Especially for online advice it’s foolish.
In person I can ask a lot of question to understand what someone’s issue happens to be and then give targeted advice. Giving advice is usually not the main goal when I write something on LW. It’s intellectual exchange.
Also dialectics.
The kind of folks who are going to follow through with this sort of advice in the first place are likely to be more conscientious than average, not less. Given that, signaling conscientiousness is not necessarily good advice—such folks may be better off developing other skills, which are also valuable in other contexts. Saying that you should “impress women” strikes me as the kind of truism that’s common in bad dating advice. There are many ways of being impressive, and knowing which are best for you in any given context is a useful skill to have.
Being better than average doesn’t mean that it’s useless to improve on it.
Developing conscientiousness usually doesn’t stand in the way of developing other skills.
I didn’t. Most heterosexual guys already spent energy on “impressing women”, my recommendation is about challenging that energy productively.
Adding two woman to a group of ten males, the behavior of that group changes. They suddenly optimize more for the image they are projecting.