Isn’t that rather disrespectful to the dead? Yes, I realize the dead are not physically alive to be appalled, but I still think a graveyard is a place of life-taking, not life-making. We ought respect that.
Well it would be a bit of a dick move to let eli_sennesh or others who would feel similarly find out about your actions. Of course, this restriction tends to cripple the “charming anecdote” advantage.
I don’t prefer them to be dead, but I’m not making them any more dead by being in a graveyard. As for the living relatives—some may not like it, but that alone doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s wrong to do so, as they’re not actually being harmed, only their sensibilities are being offended.
I’m not sure that it’s “extremely rude”. Is it extremely rude for a gay couple to hold hands in a conservative Southern small town, even though that would offend people?
For my own part, I would agree that holding hands with my husband in such an environment is rude. (I don’t know what “extremely” means here, but I would probably agree with that as well.)
Isn’t that rather disrespectful to the dead? Yes, I realize the dead are not physically alive to be appalled, but I still think a graveyard is a place of life-taking, not life-making. We ought respect that.
Why should we respect that? As you said, the dead don’t care.
“Respect for the dead” is a shorthand for “Respect for the living who care about the dead”.
So, when I commemorate my friend J.’s death every year, I’m really honoring myself?
You may be making yourself a better person; but J. is — alas — not around to receive benefit.
Well it would be a bit of a dick move to let eli_sennesh or others who would feel similarly find out about your actions. Of course, this restriction tends to cripple the “charming anecdote” advantage.
Do you prefer them to be dead? Also, what of their living relatives who come to the graveyard to mourn?
I don’t prefer them to be dead, but I’m not making them any more dead by being in a graveyard. As for the living relatives—some may not like it, but that alone doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s wrong to do so, as they’re not actually being harmed, only their sensibilities are being offended.
It’s not rude if it’s not a social setting. If no one sees you do it, no one’s sensibilities are offended.
So we can at least agree that it’s extremely rude, but you place less moral value on the rudeness than I do?
I’m not sure that it’s “extremely rude”. Is it extremely rude for a gay couple to hold hands in a conservative Southern small town, even though that would offend people?
For my own part, I would agree that holding hands with my husband in such an environment is rude. (I don’t know what “extremely” means here, but I would probably agree with that as well.)
I would also agree that it’s worth doing.
And arguably has greater social value than having sex in a graveyard.
I would be greatly interested in the methodology to measure the social value of having sex in a graveyard :-D
I want to be in the control group.