Your parenting style will probably mostly be derived from that of your own parents
The good news is that your partner provides an alternative set of parents to imitate.
Do what the mr. money mustache did: He only made a kid only after accumulating $1,000,000 (working as a software engineer and living frugally) and retiring (at ~30 years old).
I admit this sounds wonderful. But if you have university education, this leaves you maybe 5 years to accumulate the money, so you need to negotiate a $200K+ salary with very little work experience. How realistic is that?
Train them in effective emotional coping and processing. This one is hard and I’m still not good at it, so I leave the details up to you, sorry.
Being able to discuss this topic explicitly is a good start. Heh, my daughter just told me today: “If you take away my computer as a punishment, I already know how to win. I will just imagine I never had one!” Smart girl.
If your kid is intelligent, speak to them intelligently.
I would even suggest to speak to kids intelligently even if you are not sure they are already capable of understanding it. Worst case: you wasted some time. Best case: they surprise you pleasantly.
Generally, little kids often understand more than it seems. Or rather, their understanding is horribly unbalanced, so sometimes they misunderstand simple things, but then sometimes they understand things that seem difficult.
Develop their taste for vegetables.
Here I’d say try many different things, and see which ones are okay. Try them in different forms, e.g. many otherwise unattractive vegetables become acceptable when blended.
For example, broccoli seems to be a popular example of a vegetable kids hate to eat. We make a broccoli soup (cook one broccoli + one potato, blend) and no one objects.
Also we used to have breakfast like “there are four or five different vegetables cut on the plate, take any that you want, as long as you take some”. Better than having a fight over one specific type of vegetable.
Don’t feed them energy drinks.
Don’t let them drink swamp water
Check them for the alcoholism genes. Give them something to do other than drink.
OK, now I am confused. What else is there to drink? Water from toilet?
The good news is that your partner provides an alternative set of parents to imitate.
I admit this sounds wonderful. But if you have university education, this leaves you maybe 5 years to accumulate the money, so you need to negotiate a $200K+ salary with very little work experience. How realistic is that?
Being able to discuss this topic explicitly is a good start. Heh, my daughter just told me today: “If you take away my computer as a punishment, I already know how to win. I will just imagine I never had one!” Smart girl.
I would even suggest to speak to kids intelligently even if you are not sure they are already capable of understanding it. Worst case: you wasted some time. Best case: they surprise you pleasantly.
Generally, little kids often understand more than it seems. Or rather, their understanding is horribly unbalanced, so sometimes they misunderstand simple things, but then sometimes they understand things that seem difficult.
Here I’d say try many different things, and see which ones are okay. Try them in different forms, e.g. many otherwise unattractive vegetables become acceptable when blended.
For example, broccoli seems to be a popular example of a vegetable kids hate to eat. We make a broccoli soup (cook one broccoli + one potato, blend) and no one objects.
Also we used to have breakfast like “there are four or five different vegetables cut on the plate, take any that you want, as long as you take some”. Better than having a fight over one specific type of vegetable.
OK, now I am confused. What else is there to drink? Water from toilet?