My prior on cute little girls is that their parents put them in a dress, and that their work mostly consisted off putting up with it. (“Little girl” is ambiguous—as they grow up the prior on how much effort they’re personally putting in obviously goes up).
I believe there are negative consequences to to overcomplimenting them on looks, same way there are negative consequences to being told you’re smart. There may very well turn out to be consequences of being told too often that you’re hard working.
There are also, I’m sure, negative consequences to not being told you’re pretty often enough. A perfect agent probably spends some time figuring out how to tell when young girls looked good due to their own efforts, compares how often they instinctively compliment that over other ways they might begin the conversation (perhaps taking note of how often they begin conversations with young boys who look particularly well dressed with things like “Who’s this handsome little man!”) and then randomly decide whether to do so. Even without regarding how the rest of society also will impact the child, I doubt the ideal number comes out to more than 1 in 6 or so for the average person.
If you don’t have time to do all that, I think beginning conversations with “how are you?” and going from there is a perfectly good heuristic. If the girl is particularly proud of her clothes, I suspect it’ll come up, and you can compliment her then.
True, but it can still be a trial for someone that young.
I doubt the ideal number comes out to more than 1 in 6 or so for the average person.
I strongly suspect that you made this number up on the spot. If not, I would be interesting to hear how you arrived to it, and what the error bars are.
Oh the 1 in 6 number was totally made up, and was anchored by thinking about randomization which made me think about dice which made me think about 10 sided dice (because I’m a gamer and that’s what comes first time mind), which made me think about “1 in 100” chances as compared to “1 in 10″ chances, and the latter seemed like a reasonable upper bound on how often you shoud compliment a girl on her looks (based on intuition), and then in case 1 in 10 was still too high I went up to the next most recognizeable dice-size, which was 1-6.
I’m NOT a perfect agent with infinite time, and I haven’t thought about this particular instance of this problem before today. But I suspect the upper bound for how often girls need complimenting on their looks from strangers is somewhere in that order of magnitude. I don’t think that there’s much useful ground between using your intuition and doing a bunch of intensive research.
I could see the answer ranging from 1 in 20 to 1 in 6ish (I’m trying to imagine 1⁄5 as a viable answer and failing, but at this point I’m hopelessly anchored). That’s in the world where everyone in society is trying to do this at once, as opposed to a minority of agents operating against huge cultural biases.
This does not sound believable to me. I very much doubt that a perfect agent would find these sorts of questions to be well-defined. It sounds like you’re talking about the likelihood of a bulkhead failure or something completely technical … when this is not technical at all.
The amount of input my son puts into choosing his clothes is zero (because he’s not even two). When he’s older, the proportion of the clothing selection process that’s based on his input is highly likely to increase. An agent can’t measure or estimate the proportion for a particular child? An agent can’t (or shouldn’t) change her interaction with a child based on the estimate proportion?
My prior on cute little girls is that their parents put them in a dress, and that their work mostly consisted off putting up with it. (“Little girl” is ambiguous—as they grow up the prior on how much effort they’re personally putting in obviously goes up).
I believe there are negative consequences to to overcomplimenting them on looks, same way there are negative consequences to being told you’re smart. There may very well turn out to be consequences of being told too often that you’re hard working.
There are also, I’m sure, negative consequences to not being told you’re pretty often enough. A perfect agent probably spends some time figuring out how to tell when young girls looked good due to their own efforts, compares how often they instinctively compliment that over other ways they might begin the conversation (perhaps taking note of how often they begin conversations with young boys who look particularly well dressed with things like “Who’s this handsome little man!”) and then randomly decide whether to do so. Even without regarding how the rest of society also will impact the child, I doubt the ideal number comes out to more than 1 in 6 or so for the average person.
If you don’t have time to do all that, I think beginning conversations with “how are you?” and going from there is a perfectly good heuristic. If the girl is particularly proud of her clothes, I suspect it’ll come up, and you can compliment her then.
True, but it can still be a trial for someone that young.
I strongly suspect that you made this number up on the spot. If not, I would be interesting to hear how you arrived to it, and what the error bars are.
Oh the 1 in 6 number was totally made up, and was anchored by thinking about randomization which made me think about dice which made me think about 10 sided dice (because I’m a gamer and that’s what comes first time mind), which made me think about “1 in 100” chances as compared to “1 in 10″ chances, and the latter seemed like a reasonable upper bound on how often you shoud compliment a girl on her looks (based on intuition), and then in case 1 in 10 was still too high I went up to the next most recognizeable dice-size, which was 1-6.
I’m NOT a perfect agent with infinite time, and I haven’t thought about this particular instance of this problem before today. But I suspect the upper bound for how often girls need complimenting on their looks from strangers is somewhere in that order of magnitude. I don’t think that there’s much useful ground between using your intuition and doing a bunch of intensive research.
I could see the answer ranging from 1 in 20 to 1 in 6ish (I’m trying to imagine 1⁄5 as a viable answer and failing, but at this point I’m hopelessly anchored). That’s in the world where everyone in society is trying to do this at once, as opposed to a minority of agents operating against huge cultural biases.
This does not sound believable to me. I very much doubt that a perfect agent would find these sorts of questions to be well-defined. It sounds like you’re talking about the likelihood of a bulkhead failure or something completely technical … when this is not technical at all.
The amount of input my son puts into choosing his clothes is zero (because he’s not even two). When he’s older, the proportion of the clothing selection process that’s based on his input is highly likely to increase. An agent can’t measure or estimate the proportion for a particular child? An agent can’t (or shouldn’t) change her interaction with a child based on the estimate proportion?