This is well-understood by irrationalists. Once in a discussion about the necessity of evidence, I got landed with “But you don’t demand evidence that your wife loves you, right? You just have faith...”
A clever move. Now arguing the point requires me to… deny that I have faith in my wife?
I had a similar discussion with a family member, about the existence of the Christian god, where I received that exact response. My wife was sitting right there. I responded with something along the lines of, “True, but my ‘faith’ in her love is already backed up by evidence, and besides, I have plenty of evidence that she exists. If there was evidence for God and evidence of His love, I would happily put faith in that too.”
But I agree—it definitely caused me to pause to consider a tactful response.
Ah, the old “agree with me or say something rude!” gambit. I wonder if you could turn it around—“what, are you saying you don’t think my wife loves me?”
The error, of course, is that it elides between two meanings of “faith.” You trust your wife because you have (one would hope) spent a great deal of time with her and found her to be honest, concerned about your well-being, &c.
Of course, you might at some point come upon evidence that this is not warranted, and in this case the irrationalists might have a point: it may be more wise to use motivated cognition to convince yourself that she is faithful or still in love with you. Othello can be read as an extended argument for avoiding reasonable conclusions if you know that your reactions are not guaranteed to be reasonable.
You trust your wife because you have (one would hope) spent a great deal of time with her and found her to be honest, concerned about your well-being, &c.
Ah, but you see, that cannot be put into a test tube. And as all of your least educated neighbours know, if you can’t put it into a test tube, it ain’t evidence.
This is well-understood by irrationalists. Once in a discussion about the necessity of evidence, I got landed with “But you don’t demand evidence that your wife loves you, right? You just have faith...”
A clever move. Now arguing the point requires me to… deny that I have faith in my wife?
‘Why would I need to demand evidence? My wife freely gives me evidence of her love, all the time!’
I had a similar discussion with a family member, about the existence of the Christian god, where I received that exact response. My wife was sitting right there. I responded with something along the lines of, “True, but my ‘faith’ in her love is already backed up by evidence, and besides, I have plenty of evidence that she exists. If there was evidence for God and evidence of His love, I would happily put faith in that too.”
But I agree—it definitely caused me to pause to consider a tactful response.
And the proper name for a wife that doesn’t freely give evidence of her love is an ex-wife!
And for someone who doesn’t require evidence to believe in that love—a stalker!
So religious people are all God’s stalkers?
My reply was in this vein, essentially. But it’s still a sneaky bugger of a question.
See also, “The Riddle of Kyon”.
It was good! I didn’t realize you had other fanfic than HP:MoR.
He has quite a few more. Go look for the sword of good, for example..
Yeah, I should have said I didn’t know there were anymore apart from the ones on LW and HPMOR. Brain fart.
Ah, the old “agree with me or say something rude!” gambit. I wonder if you could turn it around—“what, are you saying you don’t think my wife loves me?”
The error, of course, is that it elides between two meanings of “faith.” You trust your wife because you have (one would hope) spent a great deal of time with her and found her to be honest, concerned about your well-being, &c.
Of course, you might at some point come upon evidence that this is not warranted, and in this case the irrationalists might have a point: it may be more wise to use motivated cognition to convince yourself that she is faithful or still in love with you. Othello can be read as an extended argument for avoiding reasonable conclusions if you know that your reactions are not guaranteed to be reasonable.
Ah, but you see, that cannot be put into a test tube. And as all of your least educated neighbours know, if you can’t put it into a test tube, it ain’t evidence.