The fact that you have felt something your whole life is not to the rest of us much of a reason to believe it. Nor do a few examples of analogy failures give much of a reason. Yes of course it is great to try to understand things as much as possible, but noticing and paying attention to similarities is a great tool for doing that. And what to you may seem “surface” similarities can to others be understood as causal structural similarities if they understand abstractions that you do not.
The fact that you have felt something your whole life is not to the rest of us much of a reason to believe it. Nor do a few examples of analogy failures give much of a reason. Yes of course it is great to try to understand things as much as possible, but noticing and paying attention to similarities is a great tool for doing that. And what to you may seem “surface” similarities can to others be understood as causal structural similarities if they understand abstractions that you do not.