Oh I see. This might even be useful, relaxing effects notwithstanding. So what’s people’s here take on romantic relationships ? What does it mean to you, to begin with ? Romance, relations, love, sex, how does that interplay, how do they relate ? Do you find it interesting, fulfilling ? Easy, difficult ?
That one has me puzzled for a few years. I still don’t know what I should think about it. There seems to be a lot of great reasons for them, none the less that it feels appealing. Still, to be so obsessed, to have one’s mind and soul sucked out like that, I find it not a little bit unnerving. Is there more to it, and is it worth the investment in time and energy, when that investment might be better placed somewhere else (in other words, you do not seek love to optimize happiness, you just seek it because you can’t help it, regardless of whether you’re successful or not, regardless of whether it makes you happy or not) ?
Probably the ability to decide consciously whom one does and does not fall in love with is an important rationalist skill. I’ve heard that one good technique toward the latter is to focus what people would look like on the inside (literally, the blood and guts and stuff).
Perhaps the pursuit of love does not maximize happiness per se, but on introspection, I find I value love for its own sake; that I value the part of me that needs love, and would not change it even if I could.
Were I able, however, I believe I would modify my pair-bonding circuitry so that a bond could easily be dissolved when the person in question is no longer bonded to me. I do not really think such a change would alter what it is to love another, and it would fix...an unfortunate bug which currently exists.
Oh I see. This might even be useful, relaxing effects notwithstanding. So what’s people’s here take on romantic relationships ? What does it mean to you, to begin with ? Romance, relations, love, sex, how does that interplay, how do they relate ? Do you find it interesting, fulfilling ? Easy, difficult ?
That one has me puzzled for a few years. I still don’t know what I should think about it. There seems to be a lot of great reasons for them, none the less that it feels appealing. Still, to be so obsessed, to have one’s mind and soul sucked out like that, I find it not a little bit unnerving. Is there more to it, and is it worth the investment in time and energy, when that investment might be better placed somewhere else (in other words, you do not seek love to optimize happiness, you just seek it because you can’t help it, regardless of whether you’re successful or not, regardless of whether it makes you happy or not) ?
Probably the ability to decide consciously whom one does and does not fall in love with is an important rationalist skill. I’ve heard that one good technique toward the latter is to focus what people would look like on the inside (literally, the blood and guts and stuff).
Perhaps the pursuit of love does not maximize happiness per se, but on introspection, I find I value love for its own sake; that I value the part of me that needs love, and would not change it even if I could.
Were I able, however, I believe I would modify my pair-bonding circuitry so that a bond could easily be dissolved when the person in question is no longer bonded to me. I do not really think such a change would alter what it is to love another, and it would fix...an unfortunate bug which currently exists.