In women-dominated communities, it is a truism that this sort of statement is generally uttered by guys who are jerks but don’t realize it.
It is a truism in a some male communities too—in particular, among those who have started to take responsibility for their own dating success but are not willing to surrender their idealistic view that the dating world should somehow be fair or even that people should be rationally self interested. It isn’t and they aren’t.
It is troubling to see that opinion put forward here as if it is a belief that might actually be about reality—or more to the point that it must be believed or else be alienating and generally shameful and offensive, which seems to be message being conveyed here.
A post that claims to explain why women only go out with jerks is therefore very liable to be extremely alienating to most female readers, especially when the answer turns out to be “because evolution.”
It would seem to be more alienating to any male readers who has ever dated a female. At least, any of us that mind being called ‘jerks’. :)
It is a truism in a some male communities too—in particular, among those who have started to take responsibility for their own dating success but are not willing to surrender their idealistic view that the dating world should somehow be fair or even that people should be rationally self interested. It isn’t and they aren’t.
It is troubling to see that opinion put forward here as if it is a belief that might actually be about reality—or more to the point that it must be believed or else be alienating and generally shameful and offensive, which seems to be message being conveyed here.
It would seem to be more alienating to any male readers who has ever dated a female. At least, any of us that mind being called ‘jerks’. :)