The best way to handle that is to simply discuss it later in the process. If that’s really a high priority find an excuse to mention the Kinsey scale and see what they say. I’ve dated females in a broad range on that scale, and generally most people who are much higher than 1 on that scale will generally say so with minimal prompting.
The best way to handle that is to simply discuss it later in the process.
Others take a more direct approach, making the assumption of bisexuality clear from the outset. Using “So what kind of women do you like?” as an early topic of small talk can set a strong frame and, if nothing else, help to get to rejection quickly—a good thing!
I don’t think that’s a good strategy. A fair number of moderately bi individuals or even people who are a 3 on the Kinsey scale will find that to be a signal of creepiness or will see it as signaling an interest in them only for sexual purposes. Those are signals that are probably pretty robust. I strongly disrecommend this tactic.
will find that to be a signal of creepiness or will see it as signaling an interest in them only for sexual purposes.
With most things to do with dating and with the label ‘creepy’ in particular how you do things matters far more than what you do. Just as critical is who you are, where you are and who you are interacting with. In this example the ‘who’ is a high status attractive guy who has spent altogether too much time specialising for a specific kind of night game and the target audience is particularly high status and sexually open women of the type that make up the upper echelons of that type of social scene.
This is presented to demonstrate just how much the relevance of techniques can vary.
Those are signals that are probably pretty robust.
In as much as you were giving advice to the less wrong audience I of course agree. But your claim of general robustness is wrong.
Note: I don’t think it matters either way and some reader has voted down all of the comments here by both of us as well as others in the surrounding context. This is not something people are comfortable discussing even in the abstract.
The best way to handle that is to simply discuss it later in the process. If that’s really a high priority find an excuse to mention the Kinsey scale and see what they say. I’ve dated females in a broad range on that scale, and generally most people who are much higher than 1 on that scale will generally say so with minimal prompting.
Others take a more direct approach, making the assumption of bisexuality clear from the outset. Using “So what kind of women do you like?” as an early topic of small talk can set a strong frame and, if nothing else, help to get to rejection quickly—a good thing!
I don’t think that’s a good strategy. A fair number of moderately bi individuals or even people who are a 3 on the Kinsey scale will find that to be a signal of creepiness or will see it as signaling an interest in them only for sexual purposes. Those are signals that are probably pretty robust. I strongly disrecommend this tactic.
With most things to do with dating and with the label ‘creepy’ in particular how you do things matters far more than what you do. Just as critical is who you are, where you are and who you are interacting with. In this example the ‘who’ is a high status attractive guy who has spent altogether too much time specialising for a specific kind of night game and the target audience is particularly high status and sexually open women of the type that make up the upper echelons of that type of social scene.
This is presented to demonstrate just how much the relevance of techniques can vary.
In as much as you were giving advice to the less wrong audience I of course agree. But your claim of general robustness is wrong.
Note: I don’t think it matters either way and some reader has voted down all of the comments here by both of us as well as others in the surrounding context. This is not something people are comfortable discussing even in the abstract.