I think instructions can be either invitations, requests or demands. In the case of cooking instructions, in many cases the annoyence will be driven by it being unclear whether or not the instruction was an invitation, request or demand.
When holding a rationality meetup and having a pair exercise, giving the instructions as an invitation can be helpful. It gives the pair the freedom to take another approach then the one I proposed to solve a problem when another approach seems to be better for the problem.
If my goal is to actually teach a specific mechanism I might request that the mechanism is used.
If a person constantly interupts me during my explanation of an exercise I might demand that they are silent.
I think instructions can be either invitations, requests or demands. In the case of cooking instructions, in many cases the annoyence will be driven by it being unclear whether or not the instruction was an invitation, request or demand.
When holding a rationality meetup and having a pair exercise, giving the instructions as an invitation can be helpful. It gives the pair the freedom to take another approach then the one I proposed to solve a problem when another approach seems to be better for the problem.
If my goal is to actually teach a specific mechanism I might request that the mechanism is used.
If a person constantly interupts me during my explanation of an exercise I might demand that they are silent.