I’m not sure exactly what distinction you’re appealing to
Thanks for asking! More detail: if you’re building a communication system to transmit information from one place to another, the signals/codewords you use are arbitrary in the sense that it doesn’t matter which you use as long as the reciever of the signals knows what they mean (the conditions under which they are sent).
If I’m publishing a weather report on my website about whether it’s “sunny” or “cloudy” today, it doesn’t matter whether I give it to you in JSON and English ({"weather": "sunny"}/{"weather": "cloudy"}), or HTML and Spanish <h1>soleado</h1>/<h1>nublado</h1>: whichever one I choose, you can use it to make the same predictions about what you’ll experience when you go outside.
In contrast, the choice of where I draw the boundary between what constitutes a “sunny” vs. a “cloudy” day does make a difference to your predictions. What a signal like {"weather": "sunny"}means is different if I only send it when there’s not a single cloud in the sky, or if I only don’t send it when it’s completely overcast.
The choice between Fred and George, or between Uluru and Ayers Rock, is analogous to the difference between {"weather": "sunny"} and <h1>soleado</h1>; I consider the psychology of why a human might prefer the sound of one name over another to be out of scope of the hidden-Bayesian-structure-of-cognition thing I’ve been trying to talk about for the last thirty-eight months.
being asked to use pronouns that you find inappropriate for the people they refer to, which you say amounts to asking you to lie
That’s why trans people care about being referred to with the correct pronoun in the first place! If the pronouns didn’t convey sex-category information and you could just choose one or the other arbitrarily with no difference in meaning, then there would be no reason to care, unless you had an æsthetic preference for the voiceless palato-alveolar fricative, or for words with two letters rather than three.
because in the particular case that sparked this particular discussion that didn’t happen
Yes, it did: did you see the “Related: Timeless Slate Star Codex / Astral Codex Ten piece” link at the bottom of the post? That’s why I commented. Do I feel a little guilty now that the OP author expressed dissatisfaction with the semi-derailed thread? A little! But, ultimately, I think it’s morally right to pay the cost of being a litle annoying from time to time to try to halt the spread of this bonkers meme that continues to exert influence to this day! (I’m guessing that in the counterfactual where ”… Not Man for the Categories” was never published, but Eukaryote still wrote the (excellent) post about trees, it wouldn’t have contained the advice to “Acknowledge that all of our categories are weird and a little arbitrary”, which is a very different and (I claim) much worse pedagogical emphasis from what was laid out in the Sequences.)
Eliezer Yudkowsky once wrote about dark side epistemology: wrong lessons about how to think that people only have an incentive to invent in order to force a conclusion that they can’t get on the merits. That’s what I think is happening here: if we actually hadmagical sex-change technology such that people who wanted to change sex could do so, then everyone else would use the corresponding language because it was straightforwardly true, and no one would have invented this deranged “gerrymandered categories are Actually Fine” argument in the first place!
neither rationality nor rationalism includes any obligation to optimize your words for the exact same thing as your thoughts.
But—don’t you want the language you speak to your friends to be the same as the language you use to organize your own thoughts? How can you accept a wall between the world you see, and the world you’re allowed to talk about? Doesn’t your soul die a little bit?
“person whose gender-related characteristics are, collectively, more like those of the average woman than like those of the average man”. (That definition is kinda-circular but in a way that does no actual harm
Tangential, but—what’s even the motivation for the circularity here? What’s wrong with “adult human female”?
Okay, I get it: we want to be trans-inclusive. But the clean way to do that is, “Adult human females, plus sufficiently successful male mimics thereof in the context that I’m using the word.” (See the explanation of mimickry and story about robot ducks in ”… Optimized for Deception.”) We can accomodate mimics in the domain that their mimickry is successful without trashing our ability to acknowledge the existence of the original thing!
ambiguities around the edges unless the person using that word tells you explicitly and in detail where they draw the boundaries. [...] exactly how “towns” shade into “villages” and “cities” for me [...] how “beautiful” shades into weaker terms like “pretty” or “sexy” or “elegant”, or how I categorize turquoise-ish colours
Sex actually seems significantly disanalogous to all of these examples, because municipality size, beauty, and color are all continuous (you know, like, for all ε, there exists a δ, such that if |color1 − color2| < δ, then |greenness(color1) − greenness(color2)| < ε), whereas sex is functionally binary: there’s a morph that procduces eggs, and a morph that produces sperm, but no continuum between them that produces a continuum of intermediate-sized gametes. The existence of various intersex conditions (which some authors call “disorders of sex development”), and cross-sex hormone replacement therapy, don’t substantially change this picture, because they’re the result of some specific thing “going wrong” with one of the two-and-only-two evolved developmental processes: you end up with various DSDs and females-on-masculinizing-HRT and males-on-feminizing-HRT each being their own tiny clusters in configuration space that you can draw a category boundary around. True, there is going to be a continuum of HRT dosages (or, say, the degree of how severe a polycystic ovary syndrome case is, if you want to count that), but my point is that the taxonicity means that we don’t need to specify edge cases in detail in order to stick a category boundary between the taxons: males-on-feminizing-HRT aren’t part of the female taxon! They just aren’t!
whether that person would prefer to be treated as male or female.
What does that even mean? (Also, isn’t that kind of sexist?) If Official Gender doesn’t matter once you get to know someone, why would people have this mysterious deep-seated preference to be “treated as male or female”?
Definitions aren’t generally arbitrary in communication for reasons similar to why they aren’t arbitrary in cognition; if I define “woman” to mean “adult female human” (for some possibly-contentious definition of female” I will communicate more effectively than if I define it to mean “adult female human who is not called Jane, OR 4x2 lego brick” (same definition of “female”), even if everyone knows what definitions I am using. I think the distinction that’s doing the actual work isn’t between communication and cognition, but between proper nouns (where the question is how you assign names to specific single things) and common nouns (where there are also boundary-drawing questions). Anyway, no matter; as I said, the point of what I said about proper nouns was merely to establish that language is not used only for prediction-optimizing.
Of course people take “he” and “she” to convey sex-category information! But (because different people draw boundaries in different places) that doesn’t mean that what e.g. “he” conveys is anything as specific as “part of the cluster in thingspace that contains typical men, with Zack’s preferred metric on thingspace”, which is what it would have to be for your use of terms like “lie” to be right.
My apologies for missing the link to TCWMFM! I retract my claim that eukaryote didn’t mention it. For what it’s worth, my guess is that without TCWMFM eukaryote would in fact have said much the same things as they did with TCWMFM; the idea that category boundaries are “a little bit arbitrary” did not originate there. Philosophers have been saying “well, it all depends on what you mean by …” for ages. And, despite your many thousands of words on the subject, I remain entirely unpersuaded that it’s “bonkers”, and it still looks to me as if your assertions that it’s “bonkers” are based on entirely unrealistic ideas about how language ought to be used.
Sure, it would be nice if the language I use to talk were perfectly optimized for thinking. But it isn’t, and it never will be, and any possible conflict between tact and prediction-optimality in gender-words is far down the list of reasons why. Because the primary requirement for the language I use to talk to my friends is that I should be able to use it to talk to my friends, and it happens that the language my friends mostly talk is English, which like every other natural language is a pile of kludges and path-dependent arbitrary choices. And also because different people define things in slightly different ways, so no matter how carefully optimized my notion of (say) “woman” might be, when I’m talking with other people that doesn’t matter because they are not going to mean the exact same thing by it as I do. Even if nothing we are saying has anything to do with trans people at all.
To be more precise: no, I don’t “want” the language I speak with my friends to be the same as the language I use to organize my own thoughts. The way I organize my own thoughts is necessarily idiosyncratic; it has to work for my brain, thinking the kinds of thoughts that I happen to need to think, given the things that I happen to know; fortunately my friends are not my clones, and their brains and thoughts and knowledge are different; so there is no possible way for the language we speak to be optimal for all of our thoughts.
What’s wrong with “adult human female” is that it just pushes whatever difficulties there might have been in “woman” over to “female”. I’m perfectly happy agreeing that women are adult female humans (or adult human females, but that’s an ugly locution) and I think everyone would be if that set of words hadn’t been adopted by some people specifically as a way of objecting to some things trans people want to say and think. But some people would want “female” to mean “person with no Y chromosome” and some would want it to mean “person nearer to the cluster in Zack-concept-space that contains typical women” and some would want it to mean “person who considers herself female”. Again, the circularity is perfectly benign; take any definition of “woman” that is anywhere near any definition any sane human being uses, apply the cluster definition, and iterate a few times, and it will converge very rapidly.
I’ve no idea why you say at that point “I get it, we want to be trans-inclusive”; I was referring to your preferred understanding of the word “woman” (in so far as I understand it right, which quite possibly I don’t) and so far as I can tell you don’t particularly want that to be trans-inclusive, to whatever extent being trans-inclusive conflicts with prediction-optimality. But, for what it’s worth, I don’t think that the clean way to be trans-inclusive is what you say; maybe that’s one clean-ish way to be kinda-trans-inclusive but it seems to me it doesn’t do either of those things terribly well and that term “sufficiently successful” has an awful lot of stuff swept under it.
Indeed sex is functionally binary (though I remark that most of the individual consequences of sex that actually matter for most human interactions are very much not binary, although if you take them collectively you can pretty much recover the binary classification them them), and indeed it is unlike (say) size in that respect. But I don’t think that’s relevant to the point I was making, which is simply that “woman” and “town” both have boundaries that different people draw in different places, and therefore the only circumstances in which you are going to get anything like the optimal communication you want are those where we say very explicitly where we draw the boundaries, and once we do that we are communicating far more precisely than the norm however much you dislike the specific boundaries I draw.
The rest of that paragraph only has any chance of being right if we make the assumption, which I explicitly reject, that the only valid way to delineate the meanings of words is by picking something like minimum-volume clusters in concept-space. No! It isn’t! The only valid way to delineate the meanings of words, outside technical discussions where you make explicit and precise definitions, is to try to match your usage of each word to how the other people you’re trying to communicate with use it. And, like it or not, the way language actually works does not give you anything like a guarantee that common usage will do a very good job of optimizing compactness in concept-space. If your goal is to communicate with other people, it doesn’t matter whether your preferred usage corresponds to something you consider a natural cluster in concept-space unless everyone else is also choosing their definitions that way. Which they aren’t.
(And I am very unconvinced by the assumptions you are making about the proper metrics in concept-space, for reasons I already explained about as well as I think I can explain them. If all I know about you is what gender you, or someone else, says you are, then it is most likely that the appropriate metric on concept-space for the purposes of whatever interactions we are going to have while that remains the case is one that cares mostly about things like what words you prefer me to use when talking to you. And once we start having interactions for which more subtle gender-related differences matter, what I’ve been told about your gender probably no longer has much impact on my predictions because I know a bunch of other things that mostly screen that off.)
“Treating someone as male or female” means, in practice, treating them in ways that they interpret as indicating that I regard them as male or female. This is not a thing with a precise definition and it probably couldn’t be. But as long as we have (e.g.) different pronouns for male and female, different public toilets for men and women, different social expectations for men and women (maybe we shouldn’t have those! but they are there none the less), it will be hard to avoid some degree of pigeonholing and many people will care which pigeonhole you seem to be putting them into.
Okay. I give up. I really liked your 11 May comment, and it made me optimistic that this conversation would lead somewhere new and interesting, but I’m not feeling optimistic about that anymore. (You probably aren’t, either.) This was fun, though: thanks! You’re very good at what you do!
OK. I’m not sure to what extent I’m supposed to take the last comment as an insult (“you’re very good at emitting sophistical bullshit” or whatever), but no matter :-).
I don’t know that I was feeling optimistic, but I had had some hopes that you might be persuaded to engage with what seem like key criticisms rather than just dismissing them. But you certainly should feel obliged to engage with someone you aren’t finding it worthwhile arguing with. [EDITED to add:] Er, oops, of course I mean you shouldn’t feel obliged.
By the way, I see that at least one earlier comment of yours in this thread has been downvoted; it wasn’t by me.
But—don’t you want the language you speak to your friends to be the same as the language you use to organize your own thoughts? How can you accept a wall between the world you see, and the world you’re allowed to talk about? Doesn’t your soul die a little bit?
I am not quite sure such unity of language is possible.
My thoughts really aren’t organized in words. (I hope to eventually write some posts about it, but:) My general understanding is that I have some underscrutinized mental activity that hosts a whole lot of models, prediction engines, and such; and that additionally there are many speech-generators that can take these wordless representations and convert them into words, sentences, texts of various languages. (into an echo in a verbal loop; into a sequence of muscle contractions that hit keyboard buttons; into a sequence of muscle contractions that produce sounds of speech.)
I can readily name a dozen distinct generators, and assume there are more. They adjust for a lot of social context — politeness, friendship, feelings of acceptability of topics. Whether I’m lecturing or questioning or bantering; who I am talking to and what words they will find persuasive. Whether I’m having fun or trying to explain or trying to formalize concepts or trying to express feelings. Heck, I speak 2.03 languages; empirically their generators borrow a lot from each other, but otherwise they’re as different as it goes.
When I’m writing notes, I again have many modes of speech-generation. There’s the babble mode; there’s the mode of writing a coherent post that adresses something; there’s a mode of taking extremely verbose what-is-happening notes; there’s a mode of trying to write a zettelkasten note. These modes turn on different heuristics for {what should I do next}; they produce different results, leave different mental impressions.
These langauge generators are optimized-ish for different purposes, of course, and----I wouldn’t have it any other way? Optimal ways to express my thoughts in private, to talk with my friends, and to give speeches are different, for reason that — I am tempted to argue — is implacable: these situations’ have significantly different spaces-of-consequences for same sequences-of-words; of course I would learn to optimize them separately, and therefore use somewhat different languages for them.
Likewise, writing modes are useful for decidedly different outcomes: I won’t get a good public-facing text by babbling; formal public post format is way too slow and stifling to represent an ongoing conversation with maximal fidelity; such representations are not optimized for later skimming; a (permanent) zettel note cannot help me catch subtle in-the-moment intuitions and produce insight.
(On that perspective, I would in fact think of English not as a single language, but more of as a generic protocol that allows an amount of distinct ?speech modes? to be implemented on top of it.)
(Disclosure: I have never seriously considered whether maintaining these multitudes is a price I might not want to pay. It definitely feels like the cost of keeping track of context and hosting multiple language modules is totally worth being able to optimize for so many things in separation, but I might be lost in the haze of the argument.)
So my answer here would be:
Best language to organize my thoughts probably can’t be the best language to talk to my friends, and I think I would rather have both and translate than have one that’s inferior on both counts.
The world I see and the world I can talk about are already different (none of the langauges above have words for certain concepts I observe and want to talk about); this is a barrier I bash my head about whenever I am trying to model-build, to make my understanding of the world crisper by pinning it down with labels. This is perhaps annoying but seems inevitable.
Words I can use in private and be understood by myself, and words I can use to talk to any friend, are likewise different; translation between our wordless world-models does not come for free. I am annoyed about that but neither I can will understanding into others’ heads (except by talking) nor do I want to stop privately using words nobody but me already understands.
Not being allowed to talk about certain concepts among my favorite ingroup is indeed quite unpleasant, separately from concerns above.
Thanks for asking! More detail: if you’re building a communication system to transmit information from one place to another, the signals/codewords you use are arbitrary in the sense that it doesn’t matter which you use as long as the reciever of the signals knows what they mean (the conditions under which they are sent).
(Well, the codeword lengths turn out to matter, but not the codewords themselves.)
If I’m publishing a weather report on my website about whether it’s “sunny” or “cloudy” today, it doesn’t matter whether I give it to you in JSON and English (
{"weather": "sunny"}/{"weather": "cloudy"}), or HTML and Spanish<h1>soleado</h1>/<h1>nublado</h1>: whichever one I choose, you can use it to make the same predictions about what you’ll experience when you go outside.In contrast, the choice of where I draw the boundary between what constitutes a “sunny” vs. a “cloudy” day does make a difference to your predictions. What a signal like
{"weather": "sunny"}means is different if I only send it when there’s not a single cloud in the sky, or if I only don’t send it when it’s completely overcast.The choice between Fred and George, or between Uluru and Ayers Rock, is analogous to the difference between
{"weather": "sunny"}and<h1>soleado</h1>; I consider the psychology of why a human might prefer the sound of one name over another to be out of scope of the hidden-Bayesian-structure-of-cognition thing I’ve been trying to talk about for the last thirty-eight months.Not “lying” exactly, but rather that actually-existing-English-speakers naturally interpret she and he as conveying sex-category information, even if this seems like a weird or bad design, if we were somehow in the position of designing a natural language from scratch. (You could propose that it shouldn’t work that way, but the language is already “widely deployed”; the act of proposing a change doesn’t automatically update how 370,000,000 people interpret their native language.)
That’s why trans people care about being referred to with the correct pronoun in the first place! If the pronouns didn’t convey sex-category information and you could just choose one or the other arbitrarily with no difference in meaning, then there would be no reason to care, unless you had an æsthetic preference for the voiceless palato-alveolar fricative, or for words with two letters rather than three.
Yes, it did: did you see the “Related: Timeless Slate Star Codex / Astral Codex Ten piece” link at the bottom of the post? That’s why I commented. Do I feel a little guilty now that the OP author expressed dissatisfaction with the semi-derailed thread? A little! But, ultimately, I think it’s morally right to pay the cost of being a litle annoying from time to time to try to halt the spread of this bonkers meme that continues to exert influence to this day! (I’m guessing that in the counterfactual where ”… Not Man for the Categories” was never published, but Eukaryote still wrote the (excellent) post about trees, it wouldn’t have contained the advice to “Acknowledge that all of our categories are weird and a little arbitrary”, which is a very different and (I claim) much worse pedagogical emphasis from what was laid out in the Sequences.)
Eliezer Yudkowsky once wrote about dark side epistemology: wrong lessons about how to think that people only have an incentive to invent in order to force a conclusion that they can’t get on the merits. That’s what I think is happening here: if we actually had magical sex-change technology such that people who wanted to change sex could do so, then everyone else would use the corresponding language because it was straightforwardly true, and no one would have invented this deranged “gerrymandered categories are Actually Fine” argument in the first place!
But—don’t you want the language you speak to your friends to be the same as the language you use to organize your own thoughts? How can you accept a wall between the world you see, and the world you’re allowed to talk about? Doesn’t your soul die a little bit?
Tangential, but—what’s even the motivation for the circularity here? What’s wrong with “adult human female”?
Okay, I get it: we want to be trans-inclusive. But the clean way to do that is, “Adult human females, plus sufficiently successful male mimics thereof in the context that I’m using the word.” (See the explanation of mimickry and story about robot ducks in ”… Optimized for Deception.”) We can accomodate mimics in the domain that their mimickry is successful without trashing our ability to acknowledge the existence of the original thing!
Sex actually seems significantly disanalogous to all of these examples, because municipality size, beauty, and color are all continuous (you know, like, for all ε, there exists a δ, such that if |color1 − color2| < δ, then |greenness(color1) − greenness(color2)| < ε), whereas sex is functionally binary: there’s a morph that procduces eggs, and a morph that produces sperm, but no continuum between them that produces a continuum of intermediate-sized gametes. The existence of various intersex conditions (which some authors call “disorders of sex development”), and cross-sex hormone replacement therapy, don’t substantially change this picture, because they’re the result of some specific thing “going wrong” with one of the two-and-only-two evolved developmental processes: you end up with various DSDs and females-on-masculinizing-HRT and males-on-feminizing-HRT each being their own tiny clusters in configuration space that you can draw a category boundary around. True, there is going to be a continuum of HRT dosages (or, say, the degree of how severe a polycystic ovary syndrome case is, if you want to count that), but my point is that the taxonicity means that we don’t need to specify edge cases in detail in order to stick a category boundary between the taxons: males-on-feminizing-HRT aren’t part of the female taxon! They just aren’t!
What does that even mean? (Also, isn’t that kind of sexist?) If Official Gender doesn’t matter once you get to know someone, why would people have this mysterious deep-seated preference to be “treated as male or female”?
Definitions aren’t generally arbitrary in communication for reasons similar to why they aren’t arbitrary in cognition; if I define “woman” to mean “adult female human” (for some possibly-contentious definition of female” I will communicate more effectively than if I define it to mean “adult female human who is not called Jane, OR 4x2 lego brick” (same definition of “female”), even if everyone knows what definitions I am using. I think the distinction that’s doing the actual work isn’t between communication and cognition, but between proper nouns (where the question is how you assign names to specific single things) and common nouns (where there are also boundary-drawing questions). Anyway, no matter; as I said, the point of what I said about proper nouns was merely to establish that language is not used only for prediction-optimizing.
Of course people take “he” and “she” to convey sex-category information! But (because different people draw boundaries in different places) that doesn’t mean that what e.g. “he” conveys is anything as specific as “part of the cluster in thingspace that contains typical men, with Zack’s preferred metric on thingspace”, which is what it would have to be for your use of terms like “lie” to be right.
My apologies for missing the link to TCWMFM! I retract my claim that eukaryote didn’t mention it. For what it’s worth, my guess is that without TCWMFM eukaryote would in fact have said much the same things as they did with TCWMFM; the idea that category boundaries are “a little bit arbitrary” did not originate there. Philosophers have been saying “well, it all depends on what you mean by …” for ages. And, despite your many thousands of words on the subject, I remain entirely unpersuaded that it’s “bonkers”, and it still looks to me as if your assertions that it’s “bonkers” are based on entirely unrealistic ideas about how language ought to be used.
Sure, it would be nice if the language I use to talk were perfectly optimized for thinking. But it isn’t, and it never will be, and any possible conflict between tact and prediction-optimality in gender-words is far down the list of reasons why. Because the primary requirement for the language I use to talk to my friends is that I should be able to use it to talk to my friends, and it happens that the language my friends mostly talk is English, which like every other natural language is a pile of kludges and path-dependent arbitrary choices. And also because different people define things in slightly different ways, so no matter how carefully optimized my notion of (say) “woman” might be, when I’m talking with other people that doesn’t matter because they are not going to mean the exact same thing by it as I do. Even if nothing we are saying has anything to do with trans people at all.
To be more precise: no, I don’t “want” the language I speak with my friends to be the same as the language I use to organize my own thoughts. The way I organize my own thoughts is necessarily idiosyncratic; it has to work for my brain, thinking the kinds of thoughts that I happen to need to think, given the things that I happen to know; fortunately my friends are not my clones, and their brains and thoughts and knowledge are different; so there is no possible way for the language we speak to be optimal for all of our thoughts.
What’s wrong with “adult human female” is that it just pushes whatever difficulties there might have been in “woman” over to “female”. I’m perfectly happy agreeing that women are adult female humans (or adult human females, but that’s an ugly locution) and I think everyone would be if that set of words hadn’t been adopted by some people specifically as a way of objecting to some things trans people want to say and think. But some people would want “female” to mean “person with no Y chromosome” and some would want it to mean “person nearer to the cluster in Zack-concept-space that contains typical women” and some would want it to mean “person who considers herself female”. Again, the circularity is perfectly benign; take any definition of “woman” that is anywhere near any definition any sane human being uses, apply the cluster definition, and iterate a few times, and it will converge very rapidly.
I’ve no idea why you say at that point “I get it, we want to be trans-inclusive”; I was referring to your preferred understanding of the word “woman” (in so far as I understand it right, which quite possibly I don’t) and so far as I can tell you don’t particularly want that to be trans-inclusive, to whatever extent being trans-inclusive conflicts with prediction-optimality. But, for what it’s worth, I don’t think that the clean way to be trans-inclusive is what you say; maybe that’s one clean-ish way to be kinda-trans-inclusive but it seems to me it doesn’t do either of those things terribly well and that term “sufficiently successful” has an awful lot of stuff swept under it.
Indeed sex is functionally binary (though I remark that most of the individual consequences of sex that actually matter for most human interactions are very much not binary, although if you take them collectively you can pretty much recover the binary classification them them), and indeed it is unlike (say) size in that respect. But I don’t think that’s relevant to the point I was making, which is simply that “woman” and “town” both have boundaries that different people draw in different places, and therefore the only circumstances in which you are going to get anything like the optimal communication you want are those where we say very explicitly where we draw the boundaries, and once we do that we are communicating far more precisely than the norm however much you dislike the specific boundaries I draw.
The rest of that paragraph only has any chance of being right if we make the assumption, which I explicitly reject, that the only valid way to delineate the meanings of words is by picking something like minimum-volume clusters in concept-space. No! It isn’t! The only valid way to delineate the meanings of words, outside technical discussions where you make explicit and precise definitions, is to try to match your usage of each word to how the other people you’re trying to communicate with use it. And, like it or not, the way language actually works does not give you anything like a guarantee that common usage will do a very good job of optimizing compactness in concept-space. If your goal is to communicate with other people, it doesn’t matter whether your preferred usage corresponds to something you consider a natural cluster in concept-space unless everyone else is also choosing their definitions that way. Which they aren’t.
(And I am very unconvinced by the assumptions you are making about the proper metrics in concept-space, for reasons I already explained about as well as I think I can explain them. If all I know about you is what gender you, or someone else, says you are, then it is most likely that the appropriate metric on concept-space for the purposes of whatever interactions we are going to have while that remains the case is one that cares mostly about things like what words you prefer me to use when talking to you. And once we start having interactions for which more subtle gender-related differences matter, what I’ve been told about your gender probably no longer has much impact on my predictions because I know a bunch of other things that mostly screen that off.)
“Treating someone as male or female” means, in practice, treating them in ways that they interpret as indicating that I regard them as male or female. This is not a thing with a precise definition and it probably couldn’t be. But as long as we have (e.g.) different pronouns for male and female, different public toilets for men and women, different social expectations for men and women (maybe we shouldn’t have those! but they are there none the less), it will be hard to avoid some degree of pigeonholing and many people will care which pigeonhole you seem to be putting them into.
Okay. I give up. I really liked your 11 May comment, and it made me optimistic that this conversation would lead somewhere new and interesting, but I’m not feeling optimistic about that anymore. (You probably aren’t, either.) This was fun, though: thanks! You’re very good at what you do!
OK. I’m not sure to what extent I’m supposed to take the last comment as an insult (“you’re very good at emitting sophistical bullshit” or whatever), but no matter :-).
I don’t know that I was feeling optimistic, but I had had some hopes that you might be persuaded to engage with what seem like key criticisms rather than just dismissing them. But you certainly should feel obliged to engage with someone you aren’t finding it worthwhile arguing with. [EDITED to add:] Er, oops, of course I mean you shouldn’t feel obliged.
By the way, I see that at least one earlier comment of yours in this thread has been downvoted; it wasn’t by me.
I am not quite sure such unity of language is possible.
My thoughts really aren’t organized in words. (I hope to eventually write some posts about it, but:) My general understanding is that I have some underscrutinized mental activity that hosts a whole lot of models, prediction engines, and such; and that additionally there are many speech-generators that can take these wordless representations and convert them into words, sentences, texts of various languages. (into an echo in a verbal loop; into a sequence of muscle contractions that hit keyboard buttons; into a sequence of muscle contractions that produce sounds of speech.)
I can readily name a dozen distinct generators, and assume there are more. They adjust for a lot of social context — politeness, friendship, feelings of acceptability of topics. Whether I’m lecturing or questioning or bantering; who I am talking to and what words they will find persuasive. Whether I’m having fun or trying to explain or trying to formalize concepts or trying to express feelings. Heck, I speak 2.03 languages; empirically their generators borrow a lot from each other, but otherwise they’re as different as it goes.
When I’m writing notes, I again have many modes of speech-generation. There’s the babble mode; there’s the mode of writing a coherent post that adresses something; there’s a mode of taking extremely verbose what-is-happening notes; there’s a mode of trying to write a zettelkasten note. These modes turn on different heuristics for {what should I do next}; they produce different results, leave different mental impressions.
These langauge generators are optimized-ish for different purposes, of course, and----I wouldn’t have it any other way? Optimal ways to express my thoughts in private, to talk with my friends, and to give speeches are different, for reason that — I am tempted to argue — is implacable: these situations’ have significantly different spaces-of-consequences for same sequences-of-words; of course I would learn to optimize them separately, and therefore use somewhat different languages for them.
Likewise, writing modes are useful for decidedly different outcomes: I won’t get a good public-facing text by babbling; formal public post format is way too slow and stifling to represent an ongoing conversation with maximal fidelity; such representations are not optimized for later skimming; a (permanent) zettel note cannot help me catch subtle in-the-moment intuitions and produce insight.
(On that perspective, I would in fact think of English not as a single language, but more of as a generic protocol that allows an amount of distinct ?speech modes? to be implemented on top of it.)
(Disclosure: I have never seriously considered whether maintaining these multitudes is a price I might not want to pay. It definitely feels like the cost of keeping track of context and hosting multiple language modules is totally worth being able to optimize for so many things in separation, but I might be lost in the haze of the argument.)
So my answer here would be:
Best language to organize my thoughts probably can’t be the best language to talk to my friends, and I think I would rather have both and translate than have one that’s inferior on both counts.
The world I see and the world I can talk about are already different (none of the langauges above have words for certain concepts I observe and want to talk about); this is a barrier I bash my head about whenever I am trying to model-build, to make my understanding of the world crisper by pinning it down with labels. This is perhaps annoying but seems inevitable.
Words I can use in private and be understood by myself, and words I can use to talk to any friend, are likewise different; translation between our wordless world-models does not come for free. I am annoyed about that but neither I can will understanding into others’ heads (except by talking) nor do I want to stop privately using words nobody but me already understands.
Not being allowed to talk about certain concepts among my favorite ingroup is indeed quite unpleasant, separately from concerns above.