I think excuses in general are bad. They reinforce the narrative fallacy. All excuses collapse to I didn’t care enough about the thing to take into account the factors affecting it. Including variance in factors you couldn’t control. People don’t like this frame because it makes them a lot more responsible for what happens to them. Note this should be deployed exclusively internally and not as an excuse to have less empathy for others. Everyone is doing the best they can. Note also that there is a distinction between responsibility and fault. It isn’t your fault that random misfortunes befell you, but dealing with them is your responsibility whether you would like to think about it or not.
I think excuses in general are bad. They reinforce the narrative fallacy. All excuses collapse to I didn’t care enough about the thing to take into account the factors affecting it. Including variance in factors you couldn’t control. People don’t like this frame because it makes them a lot more responsible for what happens to them. Note this should be deployed exclusively internally and not as an excuse to have less empathy for others. Everyone is doing the best they can. Note also that there is a distinction between responsibility and fault. It isn’t your fault that random misfortunes befell you, but dealing with them is your responsibility whether you would like to think about it or not.