How involved was/is Brittany in the decision to “train her”? This is written as if she’s a pretty low-agency child, who needs to be gently guided and positively reinforced into behaviors, rather than these being used in conjunction with open discussion and conscious decisions.
Brittany is a high-agency med student. She is extremely headstrong. She knows what she wants and she makes whatever sacrifices are necessary to obtain it. She was enthusiastically onboard for learning to cook. The limiting factor was simply time and energy. Medical school is very stressful and time-consuming. Learning to cook when you don’t know where to start is stressful and time-consuming too. Cooking (for someone who doesn’t know how) is scary. Gentle guidance and positive reinforcement reduced the effort she had to expend learning how to cook.
Yeah. I think he’s describing normal human relating in a way that sounds unnecessarily abnormally manipulative. If not for that, it’s a story I would enjoy sharing with some of my friends who love to cook.
How involved was/is Brittany in the decision to “train her”? This is written as if she’s a pretty low-agency child, who needs to be gently guided and positively reinforced into behaviors, rather than these being used in conjunction with open discussion and conscious decisions.
Brittany is a high-agency med student. She is extremely headstrong. She knows what she wants and she makes whatever sacrifices are necessary to obtain it. She was enthusiastically onboard for learning to cook. The limiting factor was simply time and energy. Medical school is very stressful and time-consuming. Learning to cook when you don’t know where to start is stressful and time-consuming too. Cooking (for someone who doesn’t know how) is scary. Gentle guidance and positive reinforcement reduced the effort she had to expend learning how to cook.
I’d hoped and expected this was the case. I really do like the kindness and help you applied to make it less threatening or scary to start out.
Yeah. I think he’s describing normal human relating in a way that sounds unnecessarily abnormally manipulative. If not for that, it’s a story I would enjoy sharing with some of my friends who love to cook.