I just wanted to say I don’t think you did anything ethically wrong here. There was a great podcast with Diana Fleischman I listened to a while ago where she talked about how we manipulate other people all the time especially in romantic relationships. I’m uncomfortable saying that any manipulation whatsoever is ethically wrong because I think that’s demanding too much cognitive overhead for human relationships (and also makes it hard to raise kids) - I think you have to have a figure out a more nuanced view. For instance, having a high level rule on what forms of manipulation are allowed that balances protecting individual’s agency and autonomy while allowing for small forms of manipulation, and then judging the small manipulations that are allowed by the rule individually on their consequences.
I just wanted to say I don’t think you did anything ethically wrong here. There was a great podcast with Diana Fleischman I listened to a while ago where she talked about how we manipulate other people all the time especially in romantic relationships. I’m uncomfortable saying that any manipulation whatsoever is ethically wrong because I think that’s demanding too much cognitive overhead for human relationships (and also makes it hard to raise kids) - I think you have to have a figure out a more nuanced view. For instance, having a high level rule on what forms of manipulation are allowed that balances protecting individual’s agency and autonomy while allowing for small forms of manipulation, and then judging the small manipulations that are allowed by the rule individually on their consequences.