Reminds me of a family dinner where the topic of the credit union my grandparents had started came up.
According to my grandmother, the state auditor was a horribly sexist fellow. He came and audited their books every single month, telling everyone who would listen that it was because he “didn’t think a woman could be a successful credit union manager.”
This, of course, got my new-agey aunts and cousins all up-in-arms about how horrible it was that that kind of sexism was allowed back in the 60s and 70s. They really wanted to make sure everyone knew they didn’t approve, so the conversation dragged on and on...
And about the time everyone was all thoroughly riled up and angry from the stories of the mean, vindictive things this auditor had done because the credit union was run by a woman my grandfather decided to get in on the ruckus and told his story about the auditor...
Seems like the very first time the auditor had come through, the auditor spent several hours going over the books and couldn’t make it all balance correctly. He was all-fired sure this brand new credit union was up to something shady. Finally, my grandfather (who was the credit union accountant) leaned over his shoulder and pointed out the rookie math mistake the auditor had been making… repeatedly… until an hour past closing time and “could we please go home now?”
The auditor was horribly embarrassed, and stormed out in a huff. And then proceeded to come back every single month for over twenty years trying to catch them in a mistake somewhere.
I don’t know if my cousins learned anything from that story. My grandfather’s a quiet fellow. They might not even have heard his side of it. But I sure did. See, in the 60s and 70s, the auditor coming out and saying, “I’m harassing you because you humiliated me and I want revenge” would have been totally unacceptable and likely would have gotten him dismissed. But saying it was because he didn’t trust a female manager? That was a lie, but it was a socially acceptable reason for doing what he wanted to do for personal reasons anyway.
Makes me wonder just how much historic racism and sexism was simply people looking for a socially acceptable excuse to be jerks. And since I don’t think people’s overall level of desire to be spiteful has changed much, I wonder what the excuses are today now that the “traditional” ones are no longer acceptable.
Reminds me of a family dinner where the topic of the credit union my grandparents had started came up.
According to my grandmother, the state auditor was a horribly sexist fellow. He came and audited their books every single month, telling everyone who would listen that it was because he “didn’t think a woman could be a successful credit union manager.”
This, of course, got my new-agey aunts and cousins all up-in-arms about how horrible it was that that kind of sexism was allowed back in the 60s and 70s. They really wanted to make sure everyone knew they didn’t approve, so the conversation dragged on and on...
And about the time everyone was all thoroughly riled up and angry from the stories of the mean, vindictive things this auditor had done because the credit union was run by a woman my grandfather decided to get in on the ruckus and told his story about the auditor...
Seems like the very first time the auditor had come through, the auditor spent several hours going over the books and couldn’t make it all balance correctly. He was all-fired sure this brand new credit union was up to something shady. Finally, my grandfather (who was the credit union accountant) leaned over his shoulder and pointed out the rookie math mistake the auditor had been making… repeatedly… until an hour past closing time and “could we please go home now?”
The auditor was horribly embarrassed, and stormed out in a huff. And then proceeded to come back every single month for over twenty years trying to catch them in a mistake somewhere.
I don’t know if my cousins learned anything from that story. My grandfather’s a quiet fellow. They might not even have heard his side of it. But I sure did. See, in the 60s and 70s, the auditor coming out and saying, “I’m harassing you because you humiliated me and I want revenge” would have been totally unacceptable and likely would have gotten him dismissed. But saying it was because he didn’t trust a female manager? That was a lie, but it was a socially acceptable reason for doing what he wanted to do for personal reasons anyway.
Makes me wonder just how much historic racism and sexism was simply people looking for a socially acceptable excuse to be jerks. And since I don’t think people’s overall level of desire to be spiteful has changed much, I wonder what the excuses are today now that the “traditional” ones are no longer acceptable.