This is beside the point, IMHO; Moldbug’s references to “taking the red pill” are well explained by his peculiar writing style. I think they are mostly unrelated to how Athol Kay, reddit!TheRedPill and others use the term. OTOH, Multiheaded’s comment upthread provides proof that Kay’s views are genuinely problematic, in a way that’s closely related and explained by his involvement in TheRedPill meme cluster. For the time being, I make no claim one way or the other about other “high quality PUAs”.
Do also note that I really am criticizing a subculture and meme cluster here. AIUI, this has nothing to do with idea spaces in a more general sense, or even factual claims about the real world. Again, connotations and attitudes are what’s most relevant here. Moreover, I’m not sure what gave you the feeling that I am “cultivating hatred and negativity”, of all things. While it’s quite true that I am genuinely concerned about this subculture, because of… well, you said it already, the real issue here is Kay’s providing enablement to it, with the attendant bad effects. (Of course, this may also apply to other self-styled PUAs).
Multiheaded’s comment upthread provides proof that Kay’s views are genuinely problematic
If you refer to the linked article, and by “proof” you mean “strawmanning and non-sequitur”...
Seriously: Imagine a comment or an article written in a similar tone on LW. How many votes would it get?
An example:
Athol Kay: [A Red Pill Woman] understands that there is a sexual marketplace, and that women have an earlier peak of sexual desirability than men do.
Man Boobz: Presumably if she forgets this, her manospherian swain will happily neg her back to a properly less-positive assessment of her rapidly decaying beauty as a woman over the age of 14.
Where exactly in Athol’s article, or even anywhere on his website, did anyone say that anything about women’s decaying beauty over the age of 14? Citation needed!
Athol Kay: [A Red Pill Woman] understands that divorce sucks and is more akin to getting treatment for cancer than having cosmetic surgery.
Man Boobz: I sort of agree with this one, actually: for women married to Athol Kay’s followers, getting divorced would be a lot like removing a malignant tumor.
Yeah, this is the argumentation style we refer to when saying “raising the sanity waterline”… not!
Who exactly is the manipulative hateful douchebag in this article? Are you sure it was Athol Kay?
Seriously: Imagine a comment or an article written in a similar tone on LW. How many votes would it get?
Um, I think this is a silly argument, honestly. As the name makes reasonably clear, Man Boobz is a humor and satire website. Unlike most articles posted here at LW, they do not claim to qualify for any standard of rational argument. What’s useful about them is in their pointing to some of Athol Kay’s published opinions, and perhaps pointing out some undesirable connotations of these opinions.
Athol Kay: [A Red Pill Woman] understands that there is a sexual marketplace, and that women have an earlier peak of sexual desirability than men do.
Let me try to steel-man MB’s critique of this statement. Why is it especially important for a RPW to understand this—especially when the basic notion is clearly understood by any COSMO reader (which is a rather low standard)? Athol Kay does not explain how this understanding is supposed to pay rent in terms of improved results. And it is clear that, unless some special care is taken (which Athol Kay does not point out), a naïve interpretation of such “understanding” has unpleasant and unhelpful connotations.
Keep in mind that PUA/game works best when it manages to disrupt the mainstream understanding of “sexual market value” as opposed to accepting it uncritically, and the seduction community is successfully developing “girl game” methods which can allow women to be more successful in the market. By failing to point this out, Kay is under-serving Red Pill women especially badly.
Athol Kay: [A Red Pill Woman] understands that divorce sucks and is more akin to getting treatment for cancer than having cosmetic surgery.
This falls under Bastiat’s fallacy of “what is seen and what is not seen”. We see that divorce sucks; what we do not see is that divorce is nonethess rational whenever not divorcing would suck even more.
Strawmanning could be a technique used in humor and satire, but even then it isn’t a “proof” that someone’s views are “genuinely problematic”.
Athol Kay does not explain how this understanding is supposed to pay rent in terms of improved results.
How about this: Two women in their 50s compare their husbands with men who were attracted to them when they were 18, and both see that their husband’s “market value” is lower. Let’s assume there is no other problem in the marriage; they just want to be maximizers, not merely satisficers.
One of them is a “Red pill woman”, she does not divorce and keeps a relatively good relationship. The other one is encouraged by success stories in popular media, gets a divorce… and then finds that the men who were interested in her when she was 18 are actually not interested anymore, and that she probably would have maximized her happiness by staying married. -- This is how the belief can pay its rent.
We see that divorce sucks; what we do not see is that divorce is nonethess rational whenever not divorcing would suck even more.
I wouldn’t advocate staying married for example in cases of domestic violence, and I guess neither would Athol Kay. So we are speaking about “sucking” in sense of “not being with the best partner one could be with”, right? In that case, understanding one’s “market value” is critical in determining whether staying or leaving is better. (By the way, a significant part of Athol’s blog is about how men should increase their “market value”, whether by exercise or making more money or whatever.)
And then, there is the impact on children. We should not expect that even if mommy succeeds to get a more attractive partner, that it will make them automatically happy. This trade-off is often unacknowledged.
This is beside the point, IMHO; Moldbug’s references to “taking the red pill” are well explained by his peculiar writing style. I think they are mostly unrelated to how Athol Kay, reddit!TheRedPill and others use the term. OTOH, Multiheaded’s comment upthread provides proof that Kay’s views are genuinely problematic, in a way that’s closely related and explained by his involvement in TheRedPill meme cluster. For the time being, I make no claim one way or the other about other “high quality PUAs”.
Do also note that I really am criticizing a subculture and meme cluster here. AIUI, this has nothing to do with idea spaces in a more general sense, or even factual claims about the real world. Again, connotations and attitudes are what’s most relevant here. Moreover, I’m not sure what gave you the feeling that I am “cultivating hatred and negativity”, of all things. While it’s quite true that I am genuinely concerned about this subculture, because of… well, you said it already, the real issue here is Kay’s providing enablement to it, with the attendant bad effects. (Of course, this may also apply to other self-styled PUAs).
If you refer to the linked article, and by “proof” you mean “strawmanning and non-sequitur”...
Seriously: Imagine a comment or an article written in a similar tone on LW. How many votes would it get?
An example:
Where exactly in Athol’s article, or even anywhere on his website, did anyone say that anything about women’s decaying beauty over the age of 14? Citation needed!
Yeah, this is the argumentation style we refer to when saying “raising the sanity waterline”… not!
Who exactly is the manipulative hateful douchebag in this article? Are you sure it was Athol Kay?
Um, I think this is a silly argument, honestly. As the name makes reasonably clear, Man Boobz is a humor and satire website. Unlike most articles posted here at LW, they do not claim to qualify for any standard of rational argument. What’s useful about them is in their pointing to some of Athol Kay’s published opinions, and perhaps pointing out some undesirable connotations of these opinions.
Let me try to steel-man MB’s critique of this statement. Why is it especially important for a RPW to understand this—especially when the basic notion is clearly understood by any COSMO reader (which is a rather low standard)? Athol Kay does not explain how this understanding is supposed to pay rent in terms of improved results. And it is clear that, unless some special care is taken (which Athol Kay does not point out), a naïve interpretation of such “understanding” has unpleasant and unhelpful connotations.
Keep in mind that PUA/game works best when it manages to disrupt the mainstream understanding of “sexual market value” as opposed to accepting it uncritically, and the seduction community is successfully developing “girl game” methods which can allow women to be more successful in the market. By failing to point this out, Kay is under-serving Red Pill women especially badly.
This falls under Bastiat’s fallacy of “what is seen and what is not seen”. We see that divorce sucks; what we do not see is that divorce is nonethess rational whenever not divorcing would suck even more.
Strawmanning could be a technique used in humor and satire, but even then it isn’t a “proof” that someone’s views are “genuinely problematic”.
How about this: Two women in their 50s compare their husbands with men who were attracted to them when they were 18, and both see that their husband’s “market value” is lower. Let’s assume there is no other problem in the marriage; they just want to be maximizers, not merely satisficers.
One of them is a “Red pill woman”, she does not divorce and keeps a relatively good relationship. The other one is encouraged by success stories in popular media, gets a divorce… and then finds that the men who were interested in her when she was 18 are actually not interested anymore, and that she probably would have maximized her happiness by staying married. -- This is how the belief can pay its rent.
I wouldn’t advocate staying married for example in cases of domestic violence, and I guess neither would Athol Kay. So we are speaking about “sucking” in sense of “not being with the best partner one could be with”, right? In that case, understanding one’s “market value” is critical in determining whether staying or leaving is better. (By the way, a significant part of Athol’s blog is about how men should increase their “market value”, whether by exercise or making more money or whatever.)
And then, there is the impact on children. We should not expect that even if mommy succeeds to get a more attractive partner, that it will make them automatically happy. This trade-off is often unacknowledged.