I’m often surprised how little people notice, adapt to, or even punish self deception. It’s not very hard to detect when someone’s deceiving them self, people should notice more and disincentivise that
It’s not very hard to detect when someone’s deceiving them self…
A few notes:
Sometimes this is obviously true. I agree.
It’s a curious question why many folk turn their attention away from someone else’s self-deception when it’s obvious. Often they don’t, but sometimes they do. Why they (we) do that is an interesting question worthy of some sincere curiosity.
Confirmation bias. You don’t notice the cases where you don’t pick up on someone else’s self-deception.
…people should notice more and disincentivise that
Boy oh boy do I disagree.
If someone’s only option for dealing with a hostile telepath is self-deception, and then you come in and punish them for using it, thou art a dick.
Like, do you think it helps the abused mothers I named if you punish them somehow for not acknowledging their partners’ abuse? Does it even help the social circle around them?
Even if the “hostile telepath” model is wrong or doesn’t apply in some cases, people self-deceive for some reason. If you don’t dialogue with that reason at all and just create pain and misery for people who use it, you’re making some situation you don’t understand worse.
I agree that getting self-deception out of a culture is a great idea. I want less of it in general.
If someone’s only option for dealing with a hostile telepath is self-deception, and then you come in and punish them for using it, thou art a dick.
Like, do you think it helps the abused mothers I named if you punish them somehow for not acknowledging their partners’ abuse? Does it even help the social circle around them?
If that’s their only option, and the hostility in your telepathy is antisocial, then yes. In some cases though, people do have other options and their self-deception is offensive, so hostile telepathy is pro-social.
For example, it would probably help those mothers if the men knew to anticipate punishment for not acknowledging their abuse of their partners. I bet at least one of those abusive husbands/boyfriends will give his side of the story that’s a bit more favorable than “I’m a bad guy, lol”, and that it will start to fall apart when pressed. In those cases, he’ll have to choose between admitting wrongdoing or playing dumb, and people often do their best to play really dumb. The self-deception there is a ploy to steal someone else’s second box, so fuck that guy.
I think the right response is to ignore the “self” part of the deception and treat it like any other deception. If it’s okay to lie to the Nazis about hiding Jews, then it’s okay to deceive yourself into believing it too. If we’re going to make it against the law to lie under oath, then making it legal so long as they lie to themselves too is only going to increase the antisocial deception.
I’m often surprised how little people notice, adapt to, or even punish self deception. It’s not very hard to detect when someone’s deceiving them self, people should notice more and disincentivise that
This reads to me as, “We need to increase the oppression even more.”
A few notes:
Sometimes this is obviously true. I agree.
It’s a curious question why many folk turn their attention away from someone else’s self-deception when it’s obvious. Often they don’t, but sometimes they do. Why they (we) do that is an interesting question worthy of some sincere curiosity.
Confirmation bias. You don’t notice the cases where you don’t pick up on someone else’s self-deception.
Boy oh boy do I disagree.
If someone’s only option for dealing with a hostile telepath is self-deception, and then you come in and punish them for using it, thou art a dick.
Like, do you think it helps the abused mothers I named if you punish them somehow for not acknowledging their partners’ abuse? Does it even help the social circle around them?
Even if the “hostile telepath” model is wrong or doesn’t apply in some cases, people self-deceive for some reason. If you don’t dialogue with that reason at all and just create pain and misery for people who use it, you’re making some situation you don’t understand worse.
I agree that getting self-deception out of a culture is a great idea. I want less of it in general.
But we don’t get there by disincentivizing it.
If that’s their only option, and the hostility in your telepathy is antisocial, then yes. In some cases though, people do have other options and their self-deception is offensive, so hostile telepathy is pro-social.
For example, it would probably help those mothers if the men knew to anticipate punishment for not acknowledging their abuse of their partners. I bet at least one of those abusive husbands/boyfriends will give his side of the story that’s a bit more favorable than “I’m a bad guy, lol”, and that it will start to fall apart when pressed. In those cases, he’ll have to choose between admitting wrongdoing or playing dumb, and people often do their best to play really dumb. The self-deception there is a ploy to steal someone else’s second box, so fuck that guy.
I think the right response is to ignore the “self” part of the deception and treat it like any other deception. If it’s okay to lie to the Nazis about hiding Jews, then it’s okay to deceive yourself into believing it too. If we’re going to make it against the law to lie under oath, then making it legal so long as they lie to themselves too is only going to increase the antisocial deception.