I’m a lurker, and have read more posts than comments, but it seems that there actually is attention paid here to how to increase one’s emotional intelligence. How to influence one’s own emotions, how to help emotions correspond to reality, how to forget them when it’s necessary. The same issue which (to my limited knowledge) Roman philosophers were very concerned with.
Maybe it’s not explicitly applied, in a “How to Win Friends and Influence People” style, but I think the population here (myself included) tends to be turned off by that style. This blog’s style is the type of style someone like me can understand and apply. But I think we need to distinguish between style (which is optimized for nerds) and substance (which is quite human and universal, as I understand, and not at all confined to making “society” better at the expense of the challenges of one’s own life.)
In other words, if LW isn’t helping me win, then it’s I who am doing something wrong.
but it seems that there actually is attention paid here to how to increase one’s emotional intelligence.
Yes, it is true—debiasing is a form of emotional intelligence.
In other words, if LW isn’t helping me win, then it’s I who am doing something wrong.
Do you find that you personally do well at challenges that require emotional intelligence? (Obviously you don’t have to give specifics in a public forum, but in general) If a third party observer assessed your life, do you think that they’d put you above the 90th/80th/70th etc percentile in terms of:
Quality of personal relationships
Ability to successfully deal with others and comprehend social networks
Ability to read others’ emotions and project the right emotions to others
Ability to be in control of your own emotions and sense and express how you feel?
I’m a lurker, and have read more posts than comments, but it seems that there actually is attention paid here to how to increase one’s emotional intelligence. How to influence one’s own emotions, how to help emotions correspond to reality, how to forget them when it’s necessary. The same issue which (to my limited knowledge) Roman philosophers were very concerned with.
Maybe it’s not explicitly applied, in a “How to Win Friends and Influence People” style, but I think the population here (myself included) tends to be turned off by that style. This blog’s style is the type of style someone like me can understand and apply. But I think we need to distinguish between style (which is optimized for nerds) and substance (which is quite human and universal, as I understand, and not at all confined to making “society” better at the expense of the challenges of one’s own life.)
In other words, if LW isn’t helping me win, then it’s I who am doing something wrong.
Yes, it is true—debiasing is a form of emotional intelligence.
Do you find that you personally do well at challenges that require emotional intelligence? (Obviously you don’t have to give specifics in a public forum, but in general) If a third party observer assessed your life, do you think that they’d put you above the 90th/80th/70th etc percentile in terms of:
Quality of personal relationships
Ability to successfully deal with others and comprehend social networks
Ability to read others’ emotions and project the right emotions to others
Ability to be in control of your own emotions and sense and express how you feel?
No, I’m not very good, which is actually why I’m here. My personal relationships are fine; my emotions, not so much.