who seemed to be mad at me for no reason I could agree to
The best way to deal with conflicts is to assume that the other person has a good reason for being mad at you, and to figure it out. Anger is costly signalling, so they’re usually angry about something. When they’re mad at you for something that you think is wrong, arguing the point is only going to raise the tension level. Instead of denying it or defending yourself (end result: other person gets madder), try to go down a level of abstraction and talk about why they think the things they are telling you.
The best case scenario is that they run out of steam and you figure out a course of action that doesn’t push their buttons. The worst case scenario is that they’re basically not worth associating with ever in a cheap way.
The best way to deal with conflicts is to assume that the other person has a good reason for being mad at you, and to figure it out. Anger is costly signalling, so they’re usually angry about something. When they’re mad at you for something that you think is wrong, arguing the point is only going to raise the tension level. Instead of denying it or defending yourself (end result: other person gets madder), try to go down a level of abstraction and talk about why they think the things they are telling you.
The best case scenario is that they run out of steam and you figure out a course of action that doesn’t push their buttons. The worst case scenario is that they’re basically not worth associating with ever in a cheap way.