You seem to assume that people endorse the same norm when their claims are questioned and when they question claims. While this assumption is probably true in most cases, it isn’t true in others, including my own case. Like you, I interpret a person’s act of questioning my claims as a sign of respect. By default, however, I rarely question claims made by other people, since I believe the former norm is more popular than the latter.
You seem to assume that people endorse the same norm when their claims are questioned and when they question claims. While this assumption is probably true in most cases, it isn’t true in others, including my own case. Like you, I interpret a person’s act of questioning my claims as a sign of respect. By default, however, I rarely question claims made by other people, since I believe the former norm is more popular than the latter.