(I’m assuming that your complaint is about the interview quality on LW topics, rather than the physical intimacy, which we can assume is present but was amplified in the writing process. Honestly there are several things I think your comment could be about, so fortunately my problems with it are general)
I think this comment is uncharitable. Which you kind of knew already. And which, by itself, isn’t so bad.
But unfortunately, you fall into the fundamental attribution error here, and explain other peoples’ failings as if they were inherent properties of those people—and not only do you mentally assign people qualities like “sucks at explaining,” you generalize this to judge them as whole people. Not only is this a hasty conclusion, but you’re going to make other people feel bad, because people generally don’t like being judged.
I can understand the impulse “I would have done much better,” but I would much rather you kept things constructive.
The starting point for my attitude was people doing things like intervening in front of a reporter to stop discussion of a topic that looks scandalous, or talking about Singularity/AI topics in a way that doesn’t communicate much wisdom at all.
Being silly with regard to physical intimacy and in general having a wild party is all well and good by itself, if you’re into that sort of thing, but I react negatively when that silliness seems to spill over into affecting the way serious things are handled.
(I’ll partly excuse being light on the constructiveness by having seen some copy-pastes that seem to indicate that what I’m concerned about is already being tackled in a constructive way on the NYC mailing list. The folks over there are much better positioned to do the contructive things that should be done, and I wasn’t into trying to duplicate their efforts.)
(I’m assuming that your complaint is about the interview quality on LW topics, rather than the physical intimacy, which we can assume is present but was amplified in the writing process. Honestly there are several things I think your comment could be about, so fortunately my problems with it are general)
I think this comment is uncharitable. Which you kind of knew already. And which, by itself, isn’t so bad.
But unfortunately, you fall into the fundamental attribution error here, and explain other peoples’ failings as if they were inherent properties of those people—and not only do you mentally assign people qualities like “sucks at explaining,” you generalize this to judge them as whole people. Not only is this a hasty conclusion, but you’re going to make other people feel bad, because people generally don’t like being judged.
I can understand the impulse “I would have done much better,” but I would much rather you kept things constructive.
The starting point for my attitude was people doing things like intervening in front of a reporter to stop discussion of a topic that looks scandalous, or talking about Singularity/AI topics in a way that doesn’t communicate much wisdom at all.
Being silly with regard to physical intimacy and in general having a wild party is all well and good by itself, if you’re into that sort of thing, but I react negatively when that silliness seems to spill over into affecting the way serious things are handled.
(I’ll partly excuse being light on the constructiveness by having seen some copy-pastes that seem to indicate that what I’m concerned about is already being tackled in a constructive way on the NYC mailing list. The folks over there are much better positioned to do the contructive things that should be done, and I wasn’t into trying to duplicate their efforts.)