It’s not so much that I’m endorsing the status hierarchy stuff. It’s more that I’m trying to take the action that has the best consequences. Perhaps your position is that 1) status hierarchy shouldn’t gatekeep meta-conversation, 2) my acting as if it does makes the norm stronger, which is a bad consequence, and therefore 3) I shouldn’t act as if it does. My objection is that (2) is extremely weak given that my action is just an extremely small drop in the bucket. I think it rounds to zero and that the discomfort I’d cause others and myself outweighs it.
It’s not so much that I’m endorsing the status hierarchy stuff. It’s more that I’m trying to take the action that has the best consequences. Perhaps your position is that 1) status hierarchy shouldn’t gatekeep meta-conversation, 2) my acting as if it does makes the norm stronger, which is a bad consequence, and therefore 3) I shouldn’t act as if it does. My objection is that (2) is extremely weak given that my action is just an extremely small drop in the bucket. I think it rounds to zero and that the discomfort I’d cause others and myself outweighs it.