I think this is an important topic. I think what’s missing from this discussion is skill and kindness. Conversation is an art. Meta-conversation can be incredibly useful. Like other conversation, it won’t be useful if it makes people argumentative, or uncomfortable enough to drop out of the conversation.
Everything is dependent on your role in the group and your personal style and skills. Making sure your tone of voice sounds kind and relaxed (ideally, because you really are kind and relaxed) makes most types of suggestions go better. Except if you’re being ignored, and the situation is important enough to be worth stepping on some toes. Even then, I think a kind and relaxed tone is compatible with being forceful and repetitive.
I think this is an important topic. I think what’s missing from this discussion is skill and kindness. Conversation is an art. Meta-conversation can be incredibly useful. Like other conversation, it won’t be useful if it makes people argumentative, or uncomfortable enough to drop out of the conversation.
Everything is dependent on your role in the group and your personal style and skills. Making sure your tone of voice sounds kind and relaxed (ideally, because you really are kind and relaxed) makes most types of suggestions go better. Except if you’re being ignored, and the situation is important enough to be worth stepping on some toes. Even then, I think a kind and relaxed tone is compatible with being forceful and repetitive.