Interesting points! I generally agree. In particular, that a) there’s a natural tendency for people to mesh with some groups more than others based on these unspoken norms, and people gravitate towards groups they mesh with, which mitigates the problem. But the problem still doesn’t totally go away. Often times it doesn’t even go away all that much.
b) I lean pretty strongly towards agreeing with the point about it coming across as a personal insult. In particular, that fifth example I gave with the girl at the tea house. If I spoke up in front of the group and called her out for dominating the conversation, yeah, I feel like it’d be awkward. I wish that weren’t the case.
Interesting points! I generally agree. In particular, that a) there’s a natural tendency for people to mesh with some groups more than others based on these unspoken norms, and people gravitate towards groups they mesh with, which mitigates the problem. But the problem still doesn’t totally go away. Often times it doesn’t even go away all that much.
b) I lean pretty strongly towards agreeing with the point about it coming across as a personal insult. In particular, that fifth example I gave with the girl at the tea house. If I spoke up in front of the group and called her out for dominating the conversation, yeah, I feel like it’d be awkward. I wish that weren’t the case.