It sounds like you two are currently talking about two different problems: mr-hire is asking “how do avoid being That Guy Who Pressures People about Anime” and you’re asking the question “If I want to avoid people pestering me with anime questions, or people in general to stop this behavior, what would have to change?”
Yes. The latter seems to be what OP is asking about: “If one wanted it to not happen, how would one go about that?”. I assume OP is taking the perspective of his friends, who are annoyed by this behavior, rather than the perspective of the anime-fans, who don’t necessarily see anything wrong with the situation.
I assume OP is taking the perspective of his friends, who are annoyed by this behavior, rather than the perspective of the anime-fans, who don’t necessarily see anything wrong with the situation.
In the literal world, I’m an anime fan, but the situation seems basically futile: the people recommending anime seem like they’re accomplishing nothing but generating frustration. More metaphorically, I’m mostly interested in how to prevent the behaviour either as somebody complaining about anime or as a third party, and secondarily interested in how to restrain myself from recommending anime.
Yes, and you answered that question well. But the reason I asked for alternative responses, was so that I could compare them to unsolicited recommendations from the anime-fan’s point of view (and find that unsolicited recommendations have lower effort or higher reward).
Also, I’m not asking “How did your friend want the world to be different”, I’m asking “What action could your friend have taken to avoid that particular response?”. The friend is a rational agent, he is able to consider alternative strategies, but he shouldn’t expect that other people will change their behavior when they have no personal incentive to do so.
It sounds like you two are currently talking about two different problems: mr-hire is asking “how do avoid being That Guy Who Pressures People about Anime” and you’re asking the question “If I want to avoid people pestering me with anime questions, or people in general to stop this behavior, what would have to change?”
Yes. The latter seems to be what OP is asking about: “If one wanted it to not happen, how would one go about that?”. I assume OP is taking the perspective of his friends, who are annoyed by this behavior, rather than the perspective of the anime-fans, who don’t necessarily see anything wrong with the situation.
In the literal world, I’m an anime fan, but the situation seems basically futile: the people recommending anime seem like they’re accomplishing nothing but generating frustration. More metaphorically, I’m mostly interested in how to prevent the behaviour either as somebody complaining about anime or as a third party, and secondarily interested in how to restrain myself from recommending anime.
Note that my response was responding to this original question:
It want obvious to me that this was asking “How did your friend want the world to be different such that the incentives were to respond differently?”
Yes, and you answered that question well. But the reason I asked for alternative responses, was so that I could compare them to unsolicited recommendations from the anime-fan’s point of view (and find that unsolicited recommendations have lower effort or higher reward).
Also, I’m not asking “How did your friend want the world to be different”, I’m asking “What action could your friend have taken to avoid that particular response?”. The friend is a rational agent, he is able to consider alternative strategies, but he shouldn’t expect that other people will change their behavior when they have no personal incentive to do so.