I love attention, but I HATE asking for it. I’ve noticed this a few times before in various forms. This time it really clicked. What changed?
This time around, the insight came in the context of performing magic. This made the “I love attention” part more obvious than other times, when I merely noticed, “I have an allergic reaction to seeming needy.”
I was able to remember some of the context that this pattern arose from, and can observe “Yes, this may have helped me back then, but here are ways it isn’t as helpful now, and it’s not automatically terrible to ask for attention.”
I realize this is my fault, but when I click “what changed” I’m not actually sure what comment it’s linking to. (I’ll improve the comment-linking UI this week hopefully so it’s more clear which comments link where). Which comment did you mean to be linking to?
I’m interested in more details about what was going on in the particular example here (i.e. performing magic as in stage-magic? What made that different?)
I’ll be writing a post about this later. The comment it links to is the first child comment of the tippy top comment of this page.
(yes, magic the performance art)
I love attention, but I HATE asking for it. I’ve noticed this a few times before in various forms. This time it really clicked. What changed?
This time around, the insight came in the context of performing magic. This made the “I love attention” part more obvious than other times, when I merely noticed, “I have an allergic reaction to seeming needy.”
I was able to remember some of the context that this pattern arose from, and can observe “Yes, this may have helped me back then, but here are ways it isn’t as helpful now, and it’s not automatically terrible to ask for attention.”
I realize this is my fault, but when I click “what changed” I’m not actually sure what comment it’s linking to. (I’ll improve the comment-linking UI this week hopefully so it’s more clear which comments link where). Which comment did you mean to be linking to?
I’m interested in more details about what was going on in the particular example here (i.e. performing magic as in stage-magic? What made that different?)
http://www.jhazard.com/posts/magic_is_dead.html
This is less about the noticing and more about effects of the previous frame.
I like this post, and think it’d be fine to crosspost to LW.
I’ll be writing a post about this later. The comment it links to is the first child comment of the tippy top comment of this page. (yes, magic the performance art)