Thanks Pjeby. That video is brilliant. I noticed that it closely matched one of the most useful techniques that I’ve found in the NLP subculture (hidden amongst the nonsense). I’ll be sure to take a look at anything your upcoming book has to say about eliminating irrational beliefs that interfere with the motivation process.
The book is still being worked on, but in the meantime, there are two excellent books that might be considered CBT for the layman: “Loving What Is” by Byron Katie, and “Re-create Your Life”, by Morty Lefkoe.
Both are about identifying inconsistencies between your (emotional) beliefs and reality, and work well as long as you ask the questions from a state of genuine curiosity and wondering—that is, if you don’t treat the questions as rote or things you already know the answers to.
The trick is, the purpose of the questions isn’t for you to answer them, it’s to draw out the memories that form the evidence for your belief, and connect them to counterexamples or alternative interpretations at the sensory/emotional “near thinking” level, rather than merely at the logical “far thinking” level. (Otherwise you can end up “not believing in ghosts” but still being afraid of them.)
Thanks Pjeby. That video is brilliant. I noticed that it closely matched one of the most useful techniques that I’ve found in the NLP subculture (hidden amongst the nonsense). I’ll be sure to take a look at anything your upcoming book has to say about eliminating irrational beliefs that interfere with the motivation process.
The book is still being worked on, but in the meantime, there are two excellent books that might be considered CBT for the layman: “Loving What Is” by Byron Katie, and “Re-create Your Life”, by Morty Lefkoe.
Both are about identifying inconsistencies between your (emotional) beliefs and reality, and work well as long as you ask the questions from a state of genuine curiosity and wondering—that is, if you don’t treat the questions as rote or things you already know the answers to.
The trick is, the purpose of the questions isn’t for you to answer them, it’s to draw out the memories that form the evidence for your belief, and connect them to counterexamples or alternative interpretations at the sensory/emotional “near thinking” level, rather than merely at the logical “far thinking” level. (Otherwise you can end up “not believing in ghosts” but still being afraid of them.)