My opinion on marriage is conservative—people should get married when they want to have kids. They don’t sacrifice to each other; they together pay the costs of creating a good environment for their kids to grow up in.
If you don’t want to have kids, you can have sex or live together also without marriage, and divorce made marriage kinda useless as a signal of commitment. (Okay, there are other reasons, too, such as tax benefits.)
From this perspective, I am quite surprised that you see marriage as an opposite of growth mindset. Making a commitment to radically change your everyday life for the next 20 years, and taking responsibility for challenges you never experienced before, knowing that there is no way to stop this train without someone getting hurt...
Similarly, strategically making a sacrifice counts as “growth” in my books. (Jordan Peterson agrees.)
Not knowing your friend’s buddy of course makes it impossible for me to guess whether his decision was a result of maturity or… something completely different.
They don’t want to take the risky leap in becoming fishermen. As long as they keep receiving enough fish, they’ll tolerate the misery.
Who knows what would happen if the risk became smaller, e.g. thanks to the UBI. You seem to assume that people who don’t accept risk now, they simply are the type of person who would never take a risk. But maybe many people consider some smaller levels of risk acceptable (e.g. “there is a chance I will spend three years working on something that ultimately fails, and if I switch to a regular career later, I will be three years behind my peers”), and some higher levels of risk unacceptable (e.g. “there is a chance I will lose my lifelong savings and live in poverty, or get sick without having good healthcare”). And maybe too many people live in a situation where trying something revolutionary would require the unacceptable levels of risk.
By the way, some people work in corporations because they need to accumulate the capital necessary for starting their own company. And some people work in corporations because their company failed and now they have to pay their debts. Both of these can take many years.
My opinion on marriage is conservative—people should get married when they want to have kids. They don’t sacrifice to each other; they together pay the costs of creating a good environment for their kids to grow up in.
If you don’t want to have kids, you can have sex or live together also without marriage, and divorce made marriage kinda useless as a signal of commitment. (Okay, there are other reasons, too, such as tax benefits.)
From this perspective, I am quite surprised that you see marriage as an opposite of growth mindset. Making a commitment to radically change your everyday life for the next 20 years, and taking responsibility for challenges you never experienced before, knowing that there is no way to stop this train without someone getting hurt...
Similarly, strategically making a sacrifice counts as “growth” in my books. (Jordan Peterson agrees.)
Not knowing your friend’s buddy of course makes it impossible for me to guess whether his decision was a result of maturity or… something completely different.
Who knows what would happen if the risk became smaller, e.g. thanks to the UBI. You seem to assume that people who don’t accept risk now, they simply are the type of person who would never take a risk. But maybe many people consider some smaller levels of risk acceptable (e.g. “there is a chance I will spend three years working on something that ultimately fails, and if I switch to a regular career later, I will be three years behind my peers”), and some higher levels of risk unacceptable (e.g. “there is a chance I will lose my lifelong savings and live in poverty, or get sick without having good healthcare”). And maybe too many people live in a situation where trying something revolutionary would require the unacceptable levels of risk.
By the way, some people work in corporations because they need to accumulate the capital necessary for starting their own company. And some people work in corporations because their company failed and now they have to pay their debts. Both of these can take many years.