seems like enough qualifiers to avoid being called ‘exclusively heterosexual wording’.
Mm? That’s interesting.
Just to be clear:
I’ve heard that the easiest way to do this is to be very attractive, and then pick a member of the opposite sex and then … well you get the idea. We’d have to ban that.
You understand that to be proposing banning picking members of the same sex as well? Neat… I don’t think I’ve ever run into that convention before.
I’m not trying to get up on a queer-inclusivity soapbox or anything: you’re perfectly free to use “member of the opposite sex” to refer to a person who might find one sexually attractive if you wish.
But yeah, I often interpret “member of the opposite sex” to refer instead to a member of the opposite sex.
Oh, there’s no doubt it’s heterosexual. He is informally quoting someone; “I’ve heard”. I don’t think it’s fair to accuse him of being ‘exclusively heterosexual’ in his wording. I mean, true on point of fact, but the phrase connotes negatively, it implies the author is deliberate in his use of heterosexual wording. I think he put enough qualifiers in front of the sentence to not deserve that implication.
As for the idea: I got “be attractive, find someone who is attracted to you, get involved in an intense physical relationship, then make the relationship conditional on them deconverting”.
It’s clear from the very fact of this conversation that I came off, at least to some of my audience, as more accusatory than I’d meant to be, and I apologize for that.
I’ll try to be more aware of my connotations in the future.
Eh,
seems like enough qualifiers to avoid being called ‘exclusively heterosexual wording’.
Sounds suspiciously like exactly the kind of behaviour being banned ;)
Mm? That’s interesting.
Just to be clear:
You understand that to be proposing banning picking members of the same sex as well? Neat… I don’t think I’ve ever run into that convention before.
I’m not trying to get up on a queer-inclusivity soapbox or anything: you’re perfectly free to use “member of the opposite sex” to refer to a person who might find one sexually attractive if you wish.
But yeah, I often interpret “member of the opposite sex” to refer instead to a member of the opposite sex.
Oh, there’s no doubt it’s heterosexual. He is informally quoting someone; “I’ve heard”. I don’t think it’s fair to accuse him of being ‘exclusively heterosexual’ in his wording. I mean, true on point of fact, but the phrase connotes negatively, it implies the author is deliberate in his use of heterosexual wording. I think he put enough qualifiers in front of the sentence to not deserve that implication.
As for the idea: I got “be attractive, find someone who is attracted to you, get involved in an intense physical relationship, then make the relationship conditional on them deconverting”.
It’s clear from the very fact of this conversation that I came off, at least to some of my audience, as more accusatory than I’d meant to be, and I apologize for that.
I’ll try to be more aware of my connotations in the future.