So from a training wheels perspective, we might totally eradicate words like “should”. I did this! It was really helpful. But once I had removed the word from my idiolect, it became unhelpful to still be treating it as being a touchy word. Then I heard my mentor use it, and I remembered that the point of removing the word wasn’t to not ever use it, but to train my brain to think without a particular structure that “should” represented.
I tried this as well. I spent a year not using words like “should” and “fault”. I then went back to using them when I started my full-time job because those words are too useful, and I regressed, at least partially, to my old way of thinking.
Old patterns come back if you’re not careful. The training wheel metaphor is likely counterproductive here.
Ahh, I think that the context shift was probably a huge issue. I mostly hang out with people who also eschew “should”—either my intentional community or people who read blog posts like these ones of Nate’s:
I tried this as well. I spent a year not using words like “should” and “fault”. I then went back to using them when I started my full-time job because those words are too useful, and I regressed, at least partially, to my old way of thinking.
Old patterns come back if you’re not careful. The training wheel metaphor is likely counterproductive here.
Ahh, I think that the context shift was probably a huge issue. I mostly hang out with people who also eschew “should”—either my intentional community or people who read blog posts like these ones of Nate’s:
“Should” considered harmful
Your “shoulds” are not a duty
Not because you “should”
I think the training wheel metaphor isn’t perfect… it’s maybe more like this bicycle.