There is dispute in this community (and society as a whole) about whether anything is wrong with gender dynamics, and how to talk about making changes.
Eugine has a fairly hostile position to the current methods of talking about what needs changing. You have a less hostile position to those methods. If he’s the only person who talks about this topic in this venue, he gets to control this venue’s position on reflexive examination of social norms, by moving the position towards more extreme hostility.
he gets to control this venue’s position on reflexive examination of social norms, by moving the position towards more extreme hostility.
I’m not opposed to reflexive examination of social norms, although I do believe it should be done carefully. My objection is to the methods you seem to prefer for examining social norms don’t correspond to reality.
Thanks for the clarification; this is not at all what I’d initially understood you to be saying.
In general it’s worth staying aware of the differences between “nobody talks to X about gender dynamics” and “only X talks about gender dynamics,” as it’s the latter (or approximations thereof) that cause the problem you describe… but I agree that if X is consistent about involving themself in all discussions of gender dynamics, the former starts to approximate the latter.
So yeah, I’d say you’re right, this is one of the ways evaporative cooling works. (And I understand that that’s not meant as a personal criticism, except perhaps in the most technical of senses, and I’m not taking it as one.)
Edit: Hm. Annoyingly, actually, I do seem to be taking it as one. So let me say, rather, that I don’t endorse taking it as one, and will work on getting over it. :-)
There is dispute in this community (and society as a whole) about whether anything is wrong with gender dynamics, and how to talk about making changes.
Eugine has a fairly hostile position to the current methods of talking about what needs changing. You have a less hostile position to those methods. If he’s the only person who talks about this topic in this venue, he gets to control this venue’s position on reflexive examination of social norms, by moving the position towards more extreme hostility.
I’m not opposed to reflexive examination of social norms, although I do believe it should be done carefully. My objection is to the methods you seem to prefer for examining social norms don’t correspond to reality.
Thanks for the clarification; this is not at all what I’d initially understood you to be saying.
In general it’s worth staying aware of the differences between “nobody talks to X about gender dynamics” and “only X talks about gender dynamics,” as it’s the latter (or approximations thereof) that cause the problem you describe… but I agree that if X is consistent about involving themself in all discussions of gender dynamics, the former starts to approximate the latter.
So yeah, I’d say you’re right, this is one of the ways evaporative cooling works. (And I understand that that’s not meant as a personal criticism, except perhaps in the most technical of senses, and I’m not taking it as one.)
Edit: Hm. Annoyingly, actually, I do seem to be taking it as one. So let me say, rather, that I don’t endorse taking it as one, and will work on getting over it. :-)