This is something that in my opinion would deserve a longer focused debate, because I believe that you are pointing roughly in a direction of something that definitely exists, but I also think that your conclusions are exaggerated and wrong.
Like: look in the eyes—release oxytocin—get stronger ingroup feelings, yes, there is definitely a mechanism for that. But I think if we made a survey of people that would measure how much they look each other in the eyes and how tribalistic they are, it would be mostly noise. Or maybe I’m wrong, dunno.
This is something that in my opinion would deserve a longer focused debate
I’m not sure I have much more to say (I could explain the ways those things are somewhat inevitable, but I don’t believe it’s really necessary, just like, look at humans.), since I don’t really know what to do about this, other than what I’m already doing, which is building social environments where people will no longer find it necessary to overconnect/where being intentional about how we structure the network is possible, and I would guess that once it is real and I can show it to people, there will be no disagreements about whether it’s better.
But in the meantime, we do not have such social environments, so I can’t really tell anyone to stop going to bars and connecting at random. You must love, and that is the love that there is to be had today.
This is something that in my opinion would deserve a longer focused debate, because I believe that you are pointing roughly in a direction of something that definitely exists, but I also think that your conclusions are exaggerated and wrong.
Like: look in the eyes—release oxytocin—get stronger ingroup feelings, yes, there is definitely a mechanism for that. But I think if we made a survey of people that would measure how much they look each other in the eyes and how tribalistic they are, it would be mostly noise. Or maybe I’m wrong, dunno.
I’m not sure I have much more to say (I could explain the ways those things are somewhat inevitable, but I don’t believe it’s really necessary, just like, look at humans.), since I don’t really know what to do about this, other than what I’m already doing, which is building social environments where people will no longer find it necessary to overconnect/where being intentional about how we structure the network is possible, and I would guess that once it is real and I can show it to people, there will be no disagreements about whether it’s better.
But in the meantime, we do not have such social environments, so I can’t really tell anyone to stop going to bars and connecting at random. You must love, and that is the love that there is to be had today.
I respect your effort to build an environment matching your ideals.