Nothing I know of that’s analogously mass-marketed.
Dan Savage is moderately popular in this space, but I suspect that he is to dating advice what talk radio is to political analysis: entertaining, vaguely topical, and mostly non-data-driven. Mostly his advice is to be attractive (exercise, grooming, etc.) and forthright (ask for what you want, walk away from what you don’t want), which isn’t bad advice as far as it goes.
More generally, there seems to be a sentiment in the gay male community that “playing hard to get” (which a lot of dating advice for het women seems to advise, and a lot of “dating” advice for het men seems to advise ways of neutralizing) is mostly a female thing, and gay guys simply shouldn’t bother.
I have no particular reason to believe that this is true, though. In fact, I’ve seen enough queer men fascinated by the “is he or isn’t he?” game with respect to attractive men of unspecified orientation that I rather doubt it. (I don’t know if the analogous game is popular among queer women, though I’d be somewhat surprised if it weren’t.)
That said, there was so much coyness ineluctably built into the gay dating scene by the fear of punishment for so long that I guess it’s unsurprising that deliberate coyness is officially rejected. That rejection will probably fade as it becomes more and more taken for granted, as it seems to be becoming, that gay people can be publicly visible as romantic/sexual beings without risking assault or other forms of “reprisal”.
Very good point, I hadn’t thought about that. Does there exist effective dating advice for gay people? It might be illuminating.
Nothing I know of that’s analogously mass-marketed.
Dan Savage is moderately popular in this space, but I suspect that he is to dating advice what talk radio is to political analysis: entertaining, vaguely topical, and mostly non-data-driven. Mostly his advice is to be attractive (exercise, grooming, etc.) and forthright (ask for what you want, walk away from what you don’t want), which isn’t bad advice as far as it goes.
More generally, there seems to be a sentiment in the gay male community that “playing hard to get” (which a lot of dating advice for het women seems to advise, and a lot of “dating” advice for het men seems to advise ways of neutralizing) is mostly a female thing, and gay guys simply shouldn’t bother.
I have no particular reason to believe that this is true, though. In fact, I’ve seen enough queer men fascinated by the “is he or isn’t he?” game with respect to attractive men of unspecified orientation that I rather doubt it. (I don’t know if the analogous game is popular among queer women, though I’d be somewhat surprised if it weren’t.)
That said, there was so much coyness ineluctably built into the gay dating scene by the fear of punishment for so long that I guess it’s unsurprising that deliberate coyness is officially rejected. That rejection will probably fade as it becomes more and more taken for granted, as it seems to be becoming, that gay people can be publicly visible as romantic/sexual beings without risking assault or other forms of “reprisal”.