Fair enough. I was just thinking that “ever devised” is a tall order, and perhaps you’re not casting your net wide enough when thinking about it. For example, consider books of manners in general, or correct behavior for women in particular, in the 19th century, when they were ubiquitous, and apparently very useful due to increased social mobility. Or Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends etc., which probably outsells all PUA material by a wide margin. Is it possible that some of these have been more successful and effective?
These are indeed good examples, especially the first one. It is possible that by some reasonable measures of effectiveness some of them might be ahead. So yes, I agree that I might have cast my net too narrowly.
How to Win Friends and Influence People is a good book for general social skills, but it just doesn’t sufficiently cover sociosexual dynamics, particular gender-specific behavior and preferences. It’s like taking an excellent algebra book to your trig class.
The book is unlikely to substitute for pickup, though it could be a complement, and some PUAs do read it. We should never expect gender-neutral advice to be sufficient for those who have difficulty attracting the other gender or understanding their psychology.
Well, when it was written, there was no dating scene in the modern sense, and most PUA recipes made no sense. The sociosexual dynamics were all different.
Naturally, Carnegie’s book wouldn’t work as a guide to pickup, but note that I suggested it to Vladimir_M not as a contender to PUA in terms of pickup effectiveness, but as a contender to PUA in terms of “self-help” effectiveness, generally speaking.
How to Win Friends and Influence People is a good book for general social skills, but it just doesn’t sufficiently cover sociosexual dynamics, particular gender-specific behavior and preferences. It’s like taking an excellent algebra book to your trig class.
How to Win Friends and Influence People was being discussed in the broader category of self-help, compared to PUA, not promoted as a “substitute for pickup”
Fair enough. I was just thinking that “ever devised” is a tall order, and perhaps you’re not casting your net wide enough when thinking about it. For example, consider books of manners in general, or correct behavior for women in particular, in the 19th century, when they were ubiquitous, and apparently very useful due to increased social mobility. Or Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends etc., which probably outsells all PUA material by a wide margin. Is it possible that some of these have been more successful and effective?
Anyway, thanks for satisfying my curiosity.
These are indeed good examples, especially the first one. It is possible that by some reasonable measures of effectiveness some of them might be ahead. So yes, I agree that I might have cast my net too narrowly.
How to Win Friends and Influence People is a good book for general social skills, but it just doesn’t sufficiently cover sociosexual dynamics, particular gender-specific behavior and preferences. It’s like taking an excellent algebra book to your trig class.
The book is unlikely to substitute for pickup, though it could be a complement, and some PUAs do read it. We should never expect gender-neutral advice to be sufficient for those who have difficulty attracting the other gender or understanding their psychology.
Well, when it was written, there was no dating scene in the modern sense, and most PUA recipes made no sense. The sociosexual dynamics were all different.
Naturally, Carnegie’s book wouldn’t work as a guide to pickup, but note that I suggested it to Vladimir_M not as a contender to PUA in terms of pickup effectiveness, but as a contender to PUA in terms of “self-help” effectiveness, generally speaking.
How to Win Friends and Influence People was being discussed in the broader category of self-help, compared to PUA, not promoted as a “substitute for pickup”