It is generally agreed that some lies, at least, do more good than harm (these are usually known as “white lies”.) However, lying itself is generally not considered morally neutral, for whatever reason (in fact, lying in order to have someone sleep with you who would otherwise have refused is often considered a form of rape.[EDIT: not by me])
lying in order to have someone sleep with you who would otherwise have refused is often considered a form of rape.
This sounds like something that would appeal to those who have been lied to. They get to feel more righteous indignation in their victim-hood. It is less kind to those who have actually been raped through any one of coercion, drugs, violence or abuse of power. Their plight becomes trivialized for the purpose of someone getting a solid dig in against lying (or against people that have been declared liars).
Oh, I personally wouldn’t call it rape. But then, I only count literal coercive unwanted intercourse as rape, with lesser evils that often get bundled up with that as distinct if similar wrongs.
I find this more useful then other, more standard definitions because while obviously discovering you had sex, say, without birth control when you specified that you only wanted it with birth control is traumatic, I suppose, it’s not traumatic in the same way as being forced to have sex with someone at gunpoint.
But these looser definitions are common, and often have legal force, so it’s worth noting when an act could be classified as rape even if I myself would not do so. I considered adding a disclaimer to the effect that I would not consider it “rape” but decided not to bother, on the basis that we’re not discussing my opinions and there was no point starting an argument over definitions. I see I may have been suffering from the illusion of transparency somewhat.
(in fact, lying in order to have someone sleep with you who would otherwise have refused is often considered a form of rape.)
There is a difference between outright lying and kind-of sort-of lying (a.k.a. “gilding the lily”). For instance, outright lying in order to have someone give you money who would otherwise have refused is usually called “fraud” and nearly universally shunned, whereas gilding the lily in order to have someone give you money who would otherwise have refused is usually called “marketing” and it is said that “advertising is the life of trade”. And what certain PUAs do surely sounds to me much more like marketing than like fraud.
Most people are in favor of punishing advertisements that mislead consumers. Companies—who ideally would use advertisement solely to raise awareness of their product—have a financial incentive to make their ads as persuasive as possible, and so constantly push at the legal boundaries. Advertisement will always be biased, no matter how strict our regulations. But then, what we should do and what should be legal are two different questions.
I know what “tap out” implies, I just wondered what about this conversation prompted it. Are you worried about the political overtones of my last comment?
No. (I don’t have any strong opinion on whether the current legislation on advertising is too lax or too strict, mainly because I don’t know much about how lax or how strict the current legislation on advertising is.) It’s just that if I carried on this discussion I’d be just reinstating points already made elsewhere in this thread with different words or talking nonsense.
It is generally agreed that some lies, at least, do more good than harm (these are usually known as “white lies”.) However, lying itself is generally not considered morally neutral, for whatever reason (in fact, lying in order to have someone sleep with you who would otherwise have refused is often considered a form of rape.[EDIT: not by me])
This sounds like something that would appeal to those who have been lied to. They get to feel more righteous indignation in their victim-hood. It is less kind to those who have actually been raped through any one of coercion, drugs, violence or abuse of power. Their plight becomes trivialized for the purpose of someone getting a solid dig in against lying (or against people that have been declared liars).
Oh, I personally wouldn’t call it rape. But then, I only count literal coercive unwanted intercourse as rape, with lesser evils that often get bundled up with that as distinct if similar wrongs.
I find this more useful then other, more standard definitions because while obviously discovering you had sex, say, without birth control when you specified that you only wanted it with birth control is traumatic, I suppose, it’s not traumatic in the same way as being forced to have sex with someone at gunpoint.
But these looser definitions are common, and often have legal force, so it’s worth noting when an act could be classified as rape even if I myself would not do so. I considered adding a disclaimer to the effect that I would not consider it “rape” but decided not to bother, on the basis that we’re not discussing my opinions and there was no point starting an argument over definitions. I see I may have been suffering from the illusion of transparency somewhat.
There is a difference between outright lying and kind-of sort-of lying (a.k.a. “gilding the lily”). For instance, outright lying in order to have someone give you money who would otherwise have refused is usually called “fraud” and nearly universally shunned, whereas gilding the lily in order to have someone give you money who would otherwise have refused is usually called “marketing” and it is said that “advertising is the life of trade”. And what certain PUAs do surely sounds to me much more like marketing than like fraud.
Most people are in favor of punishing advertisements that mislead consumers. Companies—who ideally would use advertisement solely to raise awareness of their product—have a financial incentive to make their ads as persuasive as possible, and so constantly push at the legal boundaries. Advertisement will always be biased, no matter how strict our regulations. But then, what we should do and what should be legal are two different questions.
I guess I’d better tap out now.
… may I ask why?
I don’t think I have much else to say, short of mind-killing myself, which I kind-of would rather not do.
I know what “tap out” implies, I just wondered what about this conversation prompted it. Are you worried about the political overtones of my last comment?
No. (I don’t have any strong opinion on whether the current legislation on advertising is too lax or too strict, mainly because I don’t know much about how lax or how strict the current legislation on advertising is.) It’s just that if I carried on this discussion I’d be just reinstating points already made elsewhere in this thread with different words or talking nonsense.
Ah, OK. Thanks for explaining.