To me it’s less about thoughts and more about emotions. And not about doing it all the time, but only when I’m having some intense emotion and need to do something about it.
For example, let’s say I’m angry about something. I imagine there’s a knob in my mind: make the emotion stronger or weaker. (Or between feeling it less, and feeling it more.) What I usually do is turn the knob up. Try to feel the emotion more completely and in more detail, without trying to push any of it away. What usually happens next is the emotion kinda decides that it’s been heard and goes away: a few minutes later I realize that whatever I was feeling is no longer as intense or urgent. Or I might even forget it entirely and find my mind thinking of something else.
It’s counterintuitive but it’s really how it works for me; been doing it for over a decade now. It’s the closest thing to a mental cheat code that I know.
To me it’s less about thoughts and more about emotions. And not about doing it all the time, but only when I’m having some intense emotion and need to do something about it.
For example, let’s say I’m angry about something. I imagine there’s a knob in my mind: make the emotion stronger or weaker. (Or between feeling it less, and feeling it more.) What I usually do is turn the knob up. Try to feel the emotion more completely and in more detail, without trying to push any of it away. What usually happens next is the emotion kinda decides that it’s been heard and goes away: a few minutes later I realize that whatever I was feeling is no longer as intense or urgent. Or I might even forget it entirely and find my mind thinking of something else.
It’s counterintuitive but it’s really how it works for me; been doing it for over a decade now. It’s the closest thing to a mental cheat code that I know.
Do you find it dampens good emotions. Like if you are deeply in love and feel it does it diminish the experience?
I think for good emotions the feel-it-completely thing happens naturally anyway.