I suspect there are some assumptions here to call out. mild levels of dislike aren’t generally harmful, and are less harmful than mild levels of like are helpful. It’s fine to optimize for a small number of stronger likes, at the expense of a larger number of mild dislikes.
It’s really inconvenient and sometimes dangerous to be feared or hated by individuals with power over some aspects of your life. Your neighbors and family, for instance, are worth some effort to keep the relationship positive.
I believe the cost/benefit curve is quite nonlinear, and idiosyncratic to each individual, so there’s no way to avoid thinking about it and explicitly trying a couple of different strategies to see what works for you. That doesn’t contradict most of your explicit advice, and your first point that it doesn’t cause much (if any) harm to be mildly disliked by many people.
Your neighbors and family, for instance, are worth some effort to keep the relationship positive.
Yes. It is absolutely worth avoiding conflict with people you cannot avoid.
I believe the cost/benefit curve is quite nonlinear, and idiosyncratic to each individual, so there’s no way to avoid thinking about it and explicitly trying a couple of different strategies to see what works for you. That doesn’t contradict most of your explicit advice, and your first point that it doesn’t cause much (if any) harm to be mildly disliked by many people.
Also yes. I am an outlier in many different ways. The weirder you are, the greater potential you have to leverage your idiosyncrasies.
I suspect there are some assumptions here to call out. mild levels of dislike aren’t generally harmful, and are less harmful than mild levels of like are helpful. It’s fine to optimize for a small number of stronger likes, at the expense of a larger number of mild dislikes.
It’s really inconvenient and sometimes dangerous to be feared or hated by individuals with power over some aspects of your life. Your neighbors and family, for instance, are worth some effort to keep the relationship positive.
I believe the cost/benefit curve is quite nonlinear, and idiosyncratic to each individual, so there’s no way to avoid thinking about it and explicitly trying a couple of different strategies to see what works for you. That doesn’t contradict most of your explicit advice, and your first point that it doesn’t cause much (if any) harm to be mildly disliked by many people.
Yes. It is absolutely worth avoiding conflict with people you cannot avoid.
Also yes. I am an outlier in many different ways. The weirder you are, the greater potential you have to leverage your idiosyncrasies.