I’m again not sure how far this generalizes, but among the kind of men who read Less Wrong (which is a product of both neurotype and birth year), I think there’s a phenomenon where it’s not a matter of a man being cognitively unable to pick up on women’s cues, but of not being prepared to react in a functional way due to having internalized non-adaptive beliefs about the nature of romance and sexuality. (In a severe case, this manifests as the kind of neurosis described in Comment 171, but there are less severe cases.)
I remember one time from my youth where a woman was flirting with me in an egregiously over-the-top way that was impossible to not notice, but I just—pretended to ignore it? Not knowing what was allowed, it was easier to just do nothing. And that case was clearly not a good match, but that’s not the point—I somehow didn’t think through the obvious logic that if “yang doesn’t step up”, then relationships just don’t happen.
(Previous commentary and discussion.)